My gf (19F) and I(19F) of 5 months (we were best friends for a year) are both in the same college and are on summer break right now. She is known to not have the best reply times and she’s explained to me it’s because she gets nervous. I am always understanding of this situation however, I’ve had a conversation with her about how she can get better at it like ways I can reassure her that she’s not bothering me or anything like that. It just makes me feel like she’s not even willing to try and get better.
Before everyone I get the comments saying “no one is on call 24/7” I understand that fact. I’m talking about it takes maybe 2-3 days for her to text back at something that could be answered with one word. I don’t expect daily/constant conversation but as we’re currently not close together anymore am I wrong for just wanting to know how her day was? It has gotten to the point where her young cousin is texting me to get through to her when I can’t even do that myself. On top of this, I am the only one who has initiated dates, or remembered our anniversary. It is difficult because I have no doubt she loves or cares about me, but it is this one communication barrier that I don’t know how to address. Am I being too unreasonable?
TL;DR: My gf takes days to respond to messages during our first summer break being together in college
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Communication in all forms is important to any relationship. When you were friends for a year was her response time better?
It’s a young, short term relationship at this point and it, and you, isn’t a priority to her. You’re both incredibly young and will have plenty of opportunity to meet better people that meet your needs.