So, to begin with, I’m a 23-year-old male seeking advice on how to meet girls and potentially form a relationship. However, I’ve tried numerous times to just end up getting rejected, likely due to my poor social skills. I’m hesitant to go to bars because I don’t drink, and I’m not particularly inclined to go out alone frequently. I’ve only ever had online relationships, and I’ve lost all my female best friends I had online. I’m completely lost on where to even start, so I can at least make some progress, even if it’s just getting a girl interested or someone who wants to talk to me. I don’t want to sound desperate, but I’m incredibly lonely and don’t know where to go from here.
Idk how to find love anymore
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Hobbies, side interests, dating apps, friends of friends; find ways to socoalize with women your age…
Volunteering, classes, parks and rec, game clubs, hobbies, starting groups
Don’t go into them expecting to date. Go into them hoping to make friends.
Ready to make some friends? The way to do this is MEET PEOPLE. Use every way you can think of to do this.
Join singles groups
If you are in school, do extracurriculars and join student orgs
Join social groups and clubs. Every city has some that will match your interests, from reading groups to sports to fine dining
Use dating apps
Play a sport
Join a gym
Take up new hobbies and hang out where those people do
Take a class in something, like dance or cooking. You will work in groups with other students, plus they often have socials. These skills will also enhance your social life.
Make the rounds of the nightlife, pick a favorite club and get to know the regulars
Have a party for your new friends and the people you are meeting.
Encourage your guests to bring someone with them, so you can meet more!people. Double your reach!
You will make friends and hopefully find a love interest. Let your new pals know you’re on the hunt for love. They have siblings, cousins and friends who want to meet a nice partner.
A note on this: Don’t be “Nice Guy.”
I don’t mean that as in, don’t be nice to people, but don’t do it because you think it will get you somewhere. REAL nice guys are polite because it’s the right thing to do. If you’re thinking, “If I open doors, pay for dinner and treat her right, she’ll let me fuck her,” then you are not a Nice Guy. Women CAN tell the diff. Don’t be one of those.
Give up that “soulmate” shit. People are NOT perfect and there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Certainly there is not just 1 person you can be happy with. There are literally thousands of potential matches out there. Go get out there and find one!
This should get you started. Good luck, best wishes, and I mean that. Good health, long life and much happiness to you!
Try joining clubs or activities that interest you; it’s a great way to meet people.
My advice as a woman. Meet people in local communities of hobbies you enjoy. Talk to women like they’re just another guy friend.
Flirting is often uncomfortable and weird and as a woman can be ret intimidating feeling almost like you’re prey.
I felt safe and relaxed when I met my husband because he just treated me like everyone else. Don’t be overly pushy. Aim to form friendships and if something evolves from that eventually great. The best relationships you’ll have is one where you had a good friendship first.
It’s refreshing to just be treated like one of the guys not some foreign alien species to be wooed.
Do activities with people it makes poor social skills so much easier and is more relaxing having an activity to do rather than to be forced into small talk.
It can be hard to make connections as an adult but just keep trying and don’t be too hard on yourself you’re a lot younger than you realise and have so much ahead.
Work on yourself for you and people often find that attractive.
not to be rude, but do you have any male friends? making friends period isn’t extremely different between female-male. if thats not the case, going out looking for one romantic relationship to fulfill your needs isnt going to help you and isnt fair to your partner.
love comes in so many forms. cuddling with pets, caring for plants, love for craft and creation, love for yourself. those things draw people to you.. because you are interesting and intelligent and deserve love just as we all do.
practice your social skills with strangers: challenge yourself to go on a walk and say hi to someone in passing. if you cant do that, look in their face and smile before continuing your commute. small steps will desensitize you from meeting and talking to strangers. eventually, some of the strangers you meet one day could become your friends.