If a woman approached you with romantic interests but said you must keep it a secret from her partner, what would you do?
If a woman approached you with romantic interests but said you must keep it a secret from her partner, what would you do?
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I think I’d just say, well, you should either continue your relationship with your partner, or brake up.
Run a mile because her partner might come and sue me.
I’d tell her partner. I hate cheating and cheaters. Always have.
No thanks.
Nope. I’ve gone 33 years without sex, another 33 won’t hurt me any more. I won’t abide a cheater.
Refuse.
I will not be the third wheel. And if she decides to dump her current partner to be with me, she would probably dump me too the second she sees some new guy.
I’d shut it down.
I’m also just not a hookup guy, I don’t find them fulfilling. Even if her partner knew and it was an open situation I wouldn’t choose a short-term situation like that for myself.
Tell her to fuck off.
Probably tell her partner if I cared enough.
If they ask you to keep a secret, that secret is a lie. You gonna get moidered.
its happened… multiple times… I thank them and politely decline.. Long term married, excellent marriage and we are totally monogamous..
Nah, I’m out. 1. No woman is worth ruining my marriage for and 2. I’m not putting myself in a situation to be beaten or worse by her potentially jealous lover
Nah. It’s not ethical. Tell her that she needs to open the relationship or she’s not getting this good dick.
I don’t care about facing repercussions from her partner, I care about being a shit person.
I will not participate in infidelity from any direction.
I’m 100% down with open relationships and polyamory, because there is consent and knowledge for ALL parties involved.
How hot is she? Is there something she does impressively well? Do I know her man? What’s she into? These are important considerations.
Tell her to call when she no longer has a partner
This is a non-starter for three reasons.
One: I’m married and my wife wouldn’t be okay with it.
Two: let’s suppose I was single. If she has a partner who wouldn’t be okay with it, then getting involved with her could mean all kinds of nasty consequences.
Three: if she’ll do it to her partner, she’ll do it to me later.
No
I’d hate to be the male partner so I’d never do it to a male partner
Business partner?
I politely and respectfully tell her to f*ck off.
Keep away. I foolishly once got into a situation like that. She didn’t say the romantic interests out loud rightaway. So I thought we’d just be friends.
Once her interests came out I set a firm boundary that I don’t want to be a part of any cheating so she asked if we could still just be friends. But the messages she would send me were more than that. I wouldn’t reply in the same manner, but still.
I kept telling her to fix her marriage with her husband.
At some point her husband saw the messages and I was dragged into their mess of a relationship.
So, keep away unless you’re ready to deal with a lot of bullshit.
And the part that she could be just friends if she already had romantic interests, learned my lesson the hard way – had a guy threatening to break my door down with a crowbar.
I have so much shit on my hands already.
Nope. There is no way that drama and potential violence is worth the sex. There is also no future there beyond casual sex, if she cheats for me she’ll one day cheat on me just the same. That is a minefield I have z e r o desire to walk through.
Politely decline. I can’t do that to a brother
This is how a lot of murders start
Try to get evidence of the infidelity so I can show her partner.
Asking why the secrecy, but not pursuing as I am no fan of neither cheating nor Don’t ask don’t tell relationships
No third party dick
Hell no
I’d play along find out who her partner is and tell him about her cheating, because that man deserves better.
I ain’t no homewrecker.
Biggest red flag. Highly likely that you are not the only person she is telling this to.
Run. Far. Fast.
If I had proof I’d send it to her partner if I had their contact info. Cheating is bad and cheaters have a special place in hell reserved for them.
She’s going to fuck someone, might as well be me. I can’t control the behavior of others.
ETA: Damn 30 answers so far and I’m the only dude who would hit.
No. I’d feel guilty and ashamed.
I’ll admit that there was a time after my vaginally deceased wife left me that I wouldn’t have cared, and would have fucked the shit out of her as often as possible. But that period in my life was short lived.
Before and after that period, I would have shut her down immediately.
I am polyamorous but I never practice “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”. I don’t require that my meta (partner’s partner) hang out with me, but they have to know who I am and that I am dating / fucking (whether it’s romantic or sexual relationship) their partner.
LMAO fuck no, nothing good comes from that. Warn the guy if I can.
Immediately nope right out.
Let my wife deal with it.
If a man fucks a taken woman and he’s knows she is in a relationship, a certain percentage of the male spouses will find out. And a certain percentage of those men will either personally teach the home wrecker a very valuable and very painful life lesson, or pay someone else to teach the home wrecker that lesson, while he has an alibi.
There are 4.1 billion females. There are approx 240,000,000 million singe women that 75% of men would consider suitable to sleep with.
It’s strongly advised pick from the 240,000,000 pile.
Tell her no thanks and move on. WTF?
Ignore her. Too messy
Throw up a little in my mouth as I walked away.
I’d say “No thank you.”
Say no and warn the guy?
If she does it to them, she’ll do it to you.
I dont deal with cheaters.
Or tell them they need to get their eyes checked.
No idea what they would see in me romantically.
This just invites drama. I would politely decline and then masturbate to the thought of her.
Tell her you are not some cheap lay. if she wants to smash she can’t be playing her dude, you are not gonna be some sidepiece.
Besides honestly she will make your life hell
I would snitch that shit to her partner. No one deserves that.
I would suggest she should look at her relationship and decide what is broken to fix that.
Easy, I don’t do married, engaged, with a boyfriend woman. I don’t do that kind of shit.
Play along to get something in writing or proof, then tell the partner and never talk to her again.
Report to HR if coworker.
I’m not getting in bed with garbage partners. Can’t trust they don’t have diseases. Not worth the drama.
Tell her I’m flattered, and if the attraction was mutual, I’d let her know that if the situation was different…explaining that I had a similar experience previously, and I won’t do it again. I would also distance myself from her.
Help her cheat on her partner. I’m selfish.
Run away and not look back.
Tell her to fuck off!
I’m not into that but I know people that’ll be fine with it.
The way they see it, if it ain’t them it’ll be someone else so…
I invited her to one of the swinger clubs I go to.
We talk often… she’s keen… and he knows.
He’s not handling it well, though I know he wants to.
His culture and pride won’t let him.
We all see each other every week at our local Aussie pub.
Get proof and tell. Cheaters must never be forgiven or given the option of hiding it.
Been there, don’t do it man. Honestly it’s not worth the headache.
Identify the mental disorder in that person. Help them to consult a doctor.