If a woman is interested in you, how would you want her to approach you?

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I keep seeing that men prefer women to approach them, is this true? How forward would you like her to be when doing so?

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  1. humanimustbe Avatar

    Just make your intentions clear, that way there’s no confusion.

  2. AnonymousResponder00 Avatar

    Be very direct. Guys rarely get asked out. It’ll be such a compliment that it will very likely be a yes.

  3. Dr-Mantis-Tobbogan Avatar

    “Hi, I’m [Your name goes here], what kinda stuff are you into?”

  4. furutam Avatar

    Did you know that if you drag a man to a cafe and tell him that the two of you are now on a date he’ll be too scared to leave?

  5. peg_panda Avatar

    Hey, wanna listen songs/have coffee/wait for bus/share a cab/go out sometime together.

  6. OkMathematician1072 Avatar

    just say hi and give him a compliment. if he’s not a 10/10 he can probably count on one hand how many times a woman has done that out of the blue and he’ll always remember it even if he’s busy/not single/not interested 

  7. Psyb07 Avatar

    Directly.

  8. _Alpha-Delta_ Avatar

    As directly and unambiguously as possible. 

  9. Big_Coyote_655 Avatar

    Be extremely direct.  I can’t interpret flirting from just being nice if my life depends on it.

  10. TyphoonCane Avatar

    > I keep seeing that men prefer women to approach them, is this true?

    About as true as you wanting to get approached. It’s really nice for the ego to be wanted.

    > How forward would you like her to be when doing so?

    Probably more so than most women are interested in saying aloud, but you’d be surprised at how incredibly effective “hi, I’m <name> and I thought (you looked handsome) [you’re really calm at work] {you handled that situation well} |your eyes are just gorgeous| etc. Here’s my number if you’d like to get to know me.” And just walk off.

    Men like the directness. I would not mind 1 iota if this happened at a gas station, at a grocery store, or in a gym. It’s just a matter of you signaling that you’re open to relating.

  11. nudeauthor Avatar

    Befriend me and either drop some subtle hints or ask me out on a date directly.

  12. Wizzle_Pizzle_420 Avatar

    Say something. Everybody will try everything but the quickest and easiest solution. Some folks can’t/won’t pick up on subtle hints and you’ll completely miss out. I’ve done it and it sucks when you’re actually into the person, then find out a year later they were into you, but they never said anything. Rejection sucks, but missing out on a cool connection because nobody says anything is even worse. I’d take rejection over regret any day.

  13. ifdggyjjk55uioojhgs Avatar

    Hello my name is _____. What’s yours? Would you like to exchange numbers.

  14. Redlight0516 Avatar

    I mean if you’re interested, isn’t it better than never making your intentions/feelings known or clear?

    Hey, Can I take you for a coffee/Beer?

  15. Not_Cool_Ice_Cold Avatar

    Gently grab me in my balls and smack my butt.

    Kidding, obviously. Just say hi to me and strike up a conversation. Doesn’t hurt if they do one of those recognized signs of interest like laughing at stupid jokes and flicking their hair, lol.

  16. ReliableDoorstop Avatar

    Something along the lines “that Lego set is awesome! I have one just like it!”

  17. nipslippinjizzsippin Avatar

    glance at me while im not looking… or you know just be direct, like i cant tell if your being nice or flirting. so words help.

  18. Intelligent_Ask542 Avatar

    Please just tell me, it would save us a lot of time. And it would also help if you sing the sloppy joe song, XD (other post reference)

  19. Eithercandy00 Avatar

    Almost every time I’ve talked to a man , and asked them for their number, they have given it… but more time than not the text conversation has been dry or ends… so what I’m trying to say is be confident , ask for the number.. cause there will be the person you connect with and will have a lasting relationship with