Location: Oregon
My wife is big on alternative medicine and against doctors and vaccines. One of her big things she did a couple years ago was try to have my son drink bleach water and give him bleach enemas to cure his autism. I stopped her, and should have called CPS at this time, but I didn’t. She hasn’t done anything like that since as far as I know, but I suspect she may be giving our kids turpentine (No proof yet though). She’s also been refusing to let the children go to doctors, and get vaccinations. If I can find proof of the turpentine I am going to immediately call CPS.
Since then we have gone through major financial hardship. Around the time of the above incident, I was laid off from my job, and had to work making minimum wage until the end of last year. I have a much better job now, but only have a little extra money each month. We have been living on her parent’s property during all this. I am wanting to leave her (for a huge variety of reasons, but the children’s safety is a big one) and I’m feeling like the only way I can actually get away is if I leave first. My plan would be to stay with a friend until I can actually rent a place. I would need to stop paying the rent we pay her parents as well.
Ideally I would want either full custody or at least full medical custody so I can get the children vaccinated and proper medical care. My question is, Would leaving before I have a place to take the kids with me badly impact my chances of getting that custody?
I have lots of proof that she does this, as well as her family members that would vouch for me.
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A temporary living situation while you transition out of the marital home will not have a longstanding effect on your custody terms.
You should hire a divorce attorney before you make any decisions.
(NAL but someone who grew up with regular CPS Visits) Secure the kids, then the divorce. If you call and explain the situation, the findings from the social workers will be able to back up your claims when it comes to court. Unless you have an unbiased third party professional verify your allegations, you’re opening yourself up to have her and her parents paint you as the bad guy. Before any of that though, speak to the children. Let them know that you love them and you want what is best for them and for them to be happy and healthy -especially before you leave them alone with her for extended periods of time, giving her more time to poison the well.
NAL.
You should find a lawyer first. Get the process started. Get advice on what steps you are required to complete to have her evicted from your home.