Maybe this makes me shallow but yes. I won’t settle for someone who’s good on paper with no attraction. Sometimes I’ll see TikTok’s were a woman will advise other women to date men they’re not attracted to if they want to settle down and I couldn’t disagree more. It’s not fair to me or to him if I do that. If I can’t imagine myself jumping his bones it won’t work. I love sex in a relationship too much to settle for that 😭
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That’s gotta be the weirdest text format I saw in Reddit.
But you’re right. Attraction IS important in all of it’s facets.
I don’t think makes someone shallow or selfish. Attraction is a major part of beginning a relationship. Now if you had a partner you’d vowed to love in sickness and health and left them because they aged, THAT would make you shallow.
I wouldn’t gather social commentary from the public on TikTok tbh, it’s almost always ragebait.
Agreed with you 100%!!! Like literally what is the point otherwise? Also, men are basically never told to make concessions on looks. Men will rank the women around them on 1-10 scales, yet were the shallow ones for wanting to date someone who visually and physically turns us on?
I don’t think that makes you shallow at all. Attraction is the most important element to starting a relationship, but it’s importance quickly gets displaced by other elements as the relationship evolves.
Shallow would be remaining in a relationship that is nothing but attraction. And I don’t know if I would consider this entirely negative to be honest.
It would be weird to date someone you weren’t attracted to
In real life I’ll sometimes get a crush on someone who’s not conventionally attractive, if we know each other and I notice they’re funny and intelligent. I tried on dating apps (before I met my husband) meeting people on the basis they were funny and intelligent but in person they weren’t attractive. Basically it’s really hard for dating profiles to accurately convey who is an ‘unconventionally attractive man’. So I gave up and only went on dates with men who could be the full package.