Are you gonna be taking breaks once you’re in a house living together and married? Hell no. If you already can’t stand this person enough to where you need a break from them and possibly wanna look elsewhere, just break up with them already. Even if you don’t plan on messing around with other people. The person you’re with in the long run is GONNA piss you off sometimes, is GONNA annoy you… taking a break solves absolutely nothing but the fact that it says you’re not ready to be in that relationship. You’re not ever gonna find the person that checks every box on the list 100% of the time. You have to find the person worth loving even through their worst state (and no, “worst state” doesn’t mean being abusive or something like that) but love is work, love is sacrifice, love is hard sometimes, but true love should be worth it in the end. People need to learn how to COMMUNICATE. Talk through your issues, don’t just push them away and come back another day. Don’t bottle things down and make things even more awkward.
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Married people take breaks from each other. People need autonomy. Any two people can get tired of each other. Personal space to process is ok.
My mom’s said she and my dad went through at least one period where they took a break. They have now been married for over 30 years, no major issues.
I think sometimes the point of a break is to assess where you are and see if you’re actually better off apart. Sometimes that time makes you realize what you have, and makes the relationship stronger.
Omg breaks are so stupid ngl. Idk why people don’t understand that they have to work through problems together as a couple in order to solve them
I dont know if this is really unpopular. Most people who “take a break” are just postponing the inevitable and will break up for good eventually. That said, i disagree when you compare a couple who is dating to a couple who is married. Dating couples havent taken a “for better or worse” vow, so the same level of commitment to working things out isnt required.
Who takes breaks in their relationship anymore? I don’t know a single adult that does this. This is more people in high school and early 20’s
There are times break ups get back together and have successful relationships, like teens who break up to go to college and meet up again later and get married. But they do truly break up, fully let go. You can’t hang on with one hand.
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Completely disagree – a little distance from a relationship gives a lot of perspective. Maybe the perspective is “we need to split up,” maybe it’s a way to fix things. Either way I think space to think can help.
I don’t get such posts…The OP has every right to do whatever they think, but now they want others to follow? Why? How’s anyone’s business what others are doing in their private lives?
Edit: I’ve read another post from someone who is telling people not to participate in polyamory relations, because she didn’t like it…I may agree/ disagree, but I never consider myself being in the position of telling the world what to do.
Not all breaks are because people can’t stand each other. I’ve been married for 7 years to someone I took a break with when we were dating. The reason for the break is important
I thought the same thing before I was in a long term relationship with a kid. Now it means something way different to me. Like a “break” to experiment and test options is dumb obviously. But a marriage that is struggling and a break is used as a “let’s just chill on focusing on our relationship and all our problems, work together to fix ourselves and be there for the kids” is different. I think ANY break where commitment is broken isn’t really a “break” but a way to go outside the relationship
Me and my newish gf just took a break to work through things. Sometimes it’s OK to take a step back and figure out why you’re upset and how to convey those feelings instead of in the heat of the moment. If you’re mature about it and actually use the time to reflect then it can be useful. It’s not just an excuse to see other people.