If you stop talking to a friend for months, and one day yall see each other again, in what condition is that friendship? Just as you left it or likely to have changed?
If you stop talking to a friend for months, and one day yall see each other again, in what condition is that friendship? Just as you left it or likely to have changed?
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I think atp i would just ignore them or if we make eye contact in person then politely smile and say hi. But basically the friendship is not good.
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It completely depends on the friend.
I’ve had friends that I haven’t seen or spoken to in years that come to town and we reconnect like no time has passed.
I have old friends that drifted due to differences in our lives and values that I would dodge in a grocery store.
Just as I left it. It’s not unusual for me to go months without talking to anyone outside of work. I don’t have any very close friends though.
I have old high school friends I hadn’t seen in years because I moved out of the country, and we’ve gotten together for lunch and couldn’t stop talking for hours. It all depends on the context and why we haven’t been in touch.
To have changed. I consider actual (good) friend someone who is actively on my life. If you disappear for months and can be okay without me, great. But we aren’t friends anymore, we are acquaintances which is also fine.
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Unless the person has done me or my loved ones harm in some way I will always treat my friends new and old like my friends. Sometimes, our lives get in the way and people drift apart. If we’re meant to cross paths we’re meant to cross paths.
I don’t see my best friends for months. We still stay in touch with quick texts here and there. Life happens, we all get busy with our own lives. Between work, S.O, family and everything else it gets difficult to always see each other.
When we see one another it’s all the better, no long nights closing out bars anymore but dinner and a few drinks.
However some friends if I see them after months I just give them a wave and a hello and be on my way. If it’s a real friendship, time and distance has no effect.
It depends on who the friend is. I have bestfriends since childhood whom I may not talk to for months or even years but we all know we’re still going to act the same once we reconnect. It’s just knowing that we’ll always have each others’ backs if we need it no matter how long we’ve gone without talking. But I’ve also had friends who were pretty close with me at some point and then gradually stopped talking to me or asking me to hang out. And while we were close, we weren’t close in the sense that I could fully understand why they stopped including me all of a sudden. In those cases, reconnecting might feel a little awkward.
That depends entirely on how and why contact in the friendship was left. If I intentionally stopped talking to that person, the friendship is likely different than it was previously. If I simply haven’t spoken to them because of life and timing or whatever, then everything is probably just the same as when we last interacted.
Usually pretty much the same.
I’ve lived in serval countries, and I went to international school (ie. Classmates/friends were in and out and from all over the world…). So my bestfriend lives in a different country, most of my uni friends are all still in that country… I’ll visit them maybe once every 2-3 years, and our messaging is sporadic, but when we do meet up, nothing really changes.
I’ve gone a month or so without talking to my best friends. Once we start chatting again it’s no different than before. Everyone goes through seasons of life. If I were expected to be in daily communication with all my friends it would absolutely drain me. I always make it known that if you don’t hear from me that’s my normal. But if you need me or just want to talk I’m there in an instant.
Personally I can’t stand having a friend who requires constant communication because it’s usually updates about useless shit that I don’t need to know or feel obligated to respond too.
Because I’m open and honest I have very healthy friendships.
Depends on the friend. Usually if it’s a friend where our dynamic is we chat every now and then, and only hang out when we can (I have a few friends overseas), then our friendship is the same.
However, I’ve had some friends where we talk pretty much daily… And if we don’t do that anymore, it usually means drama happened. For example, 2 years ago, I had a friend who gradually stopped talking to me out of insecurities. I checked in on her multiple times, I was worried. But she shut herself in, gave us backhanded insults and talked less and less until she just stopped talking. We are no longer friends.
Of course there are some friends where we used to talk daily, but gradually decreased due to life being a handful. But we still make the effort to respond and update. Sometimes we don’t reply immediately, but we still reply to each other in a day or two.
I had a friend that I hadn’t seen in years. We grew up together and I always considered him my other brother. We reconnected after my mom died (our moms were friends). It was like no time passed between us. Right back to that brother/sister vibe. I even came to think of his wife as my bff. Fast forward a couple of years (most recent Trump election run) and out came the racism and hate and just…ignorance. He was totally not the person I thought he was. I haven’t spoken to him in several months now. And the relationship between his wife and I is strained almost to the breaking point.
Just as I left it. You gotta be flexible with friends. Everyone has their own thing going on. Unless you’re my best friend, that’s different, like I need more consistent communication for us to be on that best friend level.
Depends on the circumstances. If one or both of us stopped talking because of some underlying unspoken reason, then likely that friendship has changed and something needs to be addressed if we want the friendship to continue.
Then there are just friendships that don’t require a ton of communication to be strong. My mom has 40+ year friendships where they don’t talk for a while but when they catch up, you can feel the love they have for each other.
It’s really going to depend on the friend/friendship. Cause I have friendships where it is totally normal for us to go a few weeks or months without talking. And other friendships where that wouldn’t be normal.
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I don’t talk to my closest friends every day–or every week. Except for my husband anyway.
We pick up where we left off and we catch up.
For those that did some shady stuff to put the distance–I don’t necessarily consider them friends. It depends on them.
The same. I live 9 hrs away from my friends & whenever I’m in town, we try to get together & pick up where we left off like we just saw each other yesterday
Depends on the friend, but usually just goes right back to how it was before. It’s pretty common that I disappear for a few months without communicating with friends.
Did we stop talking for a reason or did life just get busy? Generally if I fall out of touch with someone but they didn’t actually do anything wrong to me I’ll still feel good about them.
Depends on the friend. It can go both ways.
I want to catch up on every single mile stone ngl
Some people just grow apart
With my closest childhood friend it will always be like how we left it
How did we stop talking ? I think that would change everything.
It depends a lot on why you haven’t spoken to them in months.
It depends has the break been because of circumstances or disinterest?
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Just as left it.
If it was real, it picks up like nothing ever changed. The catch is… not every ‘friendship’ survives the silence. Some were just chapters, not constants.