I keep seeing dumpers breaking up with their partners because they fall out of love, incompatibility or because their partners disrespected them in some way. But is there dumpers that actually broke up with their partner because they are scared of hurting them with their mental health and immaturity while still being in love with them? He is still in his early 20 but he has a stable life. The problem is that he feels this emptiness and is scared for some reason. Maybe its because he is still young and is unsure about alot of things but i still cant get over the thought that i was never good enough for him and everything is just an excuse
Is there a possibility that a man is willing to change, that he has the goal to be better for you but he needs to do is apart. Is that another excuse for wanting to sleep with other people or date someone else?
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Are you saying you think your bf wants to sleep with other people? If he is feeling empty and scared he is not ready to be in a committed adult relationship. The thought you are not good enough for him is not ideal either. You probably should just end things and stay friends.
When I was in my early 20s I probably should have ended one of my relationships and just stayed single while I worked on myself. That would have been the mature and responsible thing to do. What actually happened was I kept trying to stick it out and hurt the person who mattered most to me a LOT.
I don’t have enough information to judge your bf but I wish I had the maturity and balls to make that move when I was 22. If I did I would have a lot fewer regrets now.