I just got a text from a friend of mine she sent me screenshots of a group chat that my husband is in and there talking and sharing private photos of me. My friend told me she had her husband delete all my photos and she was extremely sorry but there’s more men in the chat. I confronted my husband about it. At first he lied but when I showed him the screenshots he told me what he was doing he deleted everything but those men still have my photos and now that he’s stopped I’ve been getting vulgar texts from random numbers. I feel so violated by these men and my own husband. I don’t know how to move forward with this. Any advice would be helpful thanks.
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Seek advice from a divorce lawyer immediately.
This man has violated your privacy and broken your trust in the most disgusting way possible.
Heck, what he’s done isn’t just a violation of your trust, he has also broken the law. This is something that you could and should report to the police.
The marriage is essentially over, so you might as well also make him face the repercussions of his actions.
You’re absolutely justified in feeling violated, what happened crossed a line and shattered your trust, which is a big deal. To protect yourself moving forward, consider changing your phone number or blocking those unwanted texts, and then sit down with your husband for a serious conversation about trust and boundaries. Above all, know that this isn’t your fault. You deserve to feel safe and respected in your relationship.
Girl please leave this man. If he’s done this before he won’t hesitate to do it again, and you don’t even know how many people he might’ve shared those photos with. If he’s comfortable with disrespecting you this way, I can’t imagine how else he has disrespected you and felt fine doing so. Id assume red flags related to respect and privacy might’ve occurred prior this in your relationship?
This marriage is over, I would feel violated and betrayed as well, especially so since it’s from your own husband. Goodluck 🙏
You probably have a decent case against him for revenge porn. I’d speak to a lawyer.
This is an unconscionable, unforgivable betrayal. Sharing intimate material without a partner’s consent is abuse — and illegal. There is no coming back from this.
You didn’t deserve this. You deserve so much better.
I’m so sorry, OP.
They are garbage.
Wow, the men in these chats are texting you vulgar things? It was bad enough before but this is a whole other level. I don’t see how you go back from that
One of my long time work friends did this basically as soon as we started talking. She knows he does this and she even does like topless haircuts for anyone who pays for it…(I’ve never got one). Anyways, he said “if I show you what she looks like naked, theres no reason for you to try and find out yourself.” To me it was strange as hell at the time…but never looked at her in a way that I wanted to find out myself after that. And she is gorgeous….🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
Serious breach of trust. And he lied when confronted until there was no way to weasel out of it. Not great partner material, this one.
Sorry.