Hey, I’m 19 and currently in 12th grade. I come from a lower-class family and we don’t own any land or property. After passing 12th next year, I don’t think I’ll be able to continue my studies because of our financial situation. My mother keeps saying, “We’ll manage your studies, don’t worry,” but deep down I know it’s not possible. My brother is already pursuing his degree, and if I also continue my studies, it will put a lot more pressure on my family.
They are advising me to prepare for government exams, but I feel like that path might lead to years of struggling and unemployment, especially without proper resources and environment. My home environment is very toxic and mentally exhausting. I feel trapped and powerless most of the time.
I want to leave home after 12th and start managing my life on my own. I want to know how I can make this possible. How can I leave home and survive independently? How do I manage expenses, find a job, handle rent, food, and everything else that comes with living alone? Please, I really need practical advice and real suggestions from people who have faced something similar.
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You’re not crazy for wanting to leave, you’re waking up while others are still clinging to false hope. If you stay, you’ll sink with them; but if you prepare, hustle, and step out smartly, you can be the one who changes everything.
Mate, u ain’t alone, been there. First off, respect 4 putting ur fam first. But remember ur future’s ur own. Get a small job, save some dough, move to a cheap room if u can. College ain’t going nowhere, it’s okay to take a gap year, figure things out. Ur will n persistence is gonna get u through, not just grades. Mad respect for ur strength, though. Keep it up! Remember, step by step, day by day. You got this, bro. 👊
I left home at 17 with a backpack full of clothes. No cell phones or Internet then. I crashed at a friend’s house for a few months we got jobs save money moved out west got an apartment got new jobs etc etc it just rolled from there just figure it out find a place to start the rest of unfold as you go you’ll know what you need it’s not that hard
Find a good job first, figure out your pay and make a budget. I don’t know where in the world you’re located, but apprenticeship might be a good option. It’s very little studying and paid on the job training. Most common for trades like plumbing or electrical. If you go this route (with a trades school or college) apply for grants to fund the academic portion. Your guidance counsellor at school will connect you with applications. You could also get a loan. I went into debt to go to school. You just have to pay it off when you’re done.
Once you’ve got your income figured out, list your expenses. Transportation ( gas/insurance/maintenance or a bus pass) food, rent, utilities, entertainment and incidentals( like new shoes). As long as you have some money left over, you’re good. That goes into a savings account.
Feeding yourself is a whole thing. If you don’t know how to cook, learn. YouTube has videos, and there’s millions of recipes online. It will save you money and it’s way healthier.
You are not trapped or powerless. Shut those thoughts down. You are a capable intelligent problem solver. Say that to yourself. You can take a year or two to get on your feet before you go to school if leaving home is what you need to do and you don’t want a loan.
[Join a branch of the military, ]()[they will house you, feed you, teach you a cool job (Nurse, pilot, cyber security or something) you will build a great support group, make a pay check. They have great benefits, life time health care, GI bill for college when you get out, the list is long. It will be a great start in life, and or a great career.]()
Most towns have recruiting offices, go to one and see what they have to offer. Air Force, Navy, Coast Guard, and the Army is what I would recommend. They have a lot of non-combatant jobs that need to be filled, especially in health care. Carefully choose a job that will be easily transferable to a civilian career. See the link below, it’s the Army looking for healthcare workers, they will send you to school and pay you to go. So many opportunities, not only will you be successful, you will be proud of yourself. Good luck!
https://www.goarmy.com/careers-and-jobs/specialty-careers/health-care.html?iom=BDZM-22-0029_N_OSOC_MOSSpecific_FB_xx_6261583262__&linkId=150567102
sucks feelin trapped like that. if school ain’t realistic rn, try lockin in a job first, anything that gets u cash flowin. save up lil by lil. maybe look into remote work too if u can’t move yet. don’t stress tryna figure it all out at once, just focus on gettin out first and stable. one step at a time. u already got the mindset, now just start movin
Something else to consider………..Enroll in The Paul Hall Center for Maritime Training and Education, it’s a merchant marine educational facility in Piney Point, Maryland. My niece went there for less than a year, and now she navigates ships around the world. I think the cost is about $1000.00 it may be less; some say it’s free. She had to pay for something, maybe uniforms, this was 8 years ago. She makes about 20,000 a month as a 2nd mate. You will make starting out about 8 or 9000 a month after your time a Piney Point. They will house you, feed you, you will stay on campus. After you graduate you will be able to get jobs through the union, pays good money.. The nice thing about it is when you are on the ships, you have your own studio apartment on the ship, they feed you (great food), and you’re not spending a single dime. You will go out to sea 2 to 3 months at a time depending on what ship you choose at the union hall, there are always jobs there. When you come off the ship you will have a boat load money in the bank and be able to draw unemployment until you get ready to go back out. I wish I was aware of this type of occupation when I was young. Good luck.
https://www.seafarers.org/training-and-careers/paul-hall-center/school-history/
Start by getting a job and saving as much money as you can.
Make time to get a realistic picture of what rent and bills are on your own. If you’re comfortable living in a roommate situation to keep your costs affordable make sure to VET (as best as you can) the people you might live with.
When you’re able to get out keep it simple. Spend less than you make. Remember bills > needs > savings > wants. I wish you the very best.
Start small, stay smart, never stop moving forward.