My relationship with my boyfriend is super fresh, we’re about a month into it.
For a little context, I’m overweight. I don’t think the weight looks bad on me, I have an hourglass body and it’s nicely distributed,but I was and still am insecure about it.I am trying to lose weight (before I meet him) and I have lost 6kg so far.
Yesterday, My shift at work ended and when I got home we talked on facetime. We talked a little bit and the conversation went to our types. He said that he prefers skinny girls. I said something like “oh now I feel bad” and he said that if the the personality fits, he doesn’t care about the appearance. That led to me thinking “so, he’s not attracted to my appearance”. He said “”Is that what you realized when we hang out?”. Like of course not, but this is what my insecurity tells me when he shows up with the sentence “the appearance doesn’t matter”. Am I stupid for feeling bad about this?.
TL;DR My boyfriend’s preference is different from what I’m and that’s make me insecure.
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Let me hold your hand whilst I tell you this. Your boyfriend is a dick and you deserve better. Things wont change for the better.
You deserve someone who will make you feel like the moon and the stars.
I feel for you girl, I am not my boyfriend’s type either and it sucks to feel insecure whenever it suddenly comes to your mind. You are not stupid, you are a human being who is hurt for not being someone’s standard of beauty.
I wish I had an evenly distributed hourglass body like what you have and I know you will eventually meet a man whose ideal body type is yours!!
He is negging you and trying to lower your self esteem so you won’t see that he is awful and that you can do far better than him. I was always a very pretty and feminine girl and got a lot of attention. Many objectively ugly men tried to do this to me throughout my life. One of them for example said to me that he prefers bigger tits so I said “Honestly I prefer big dicks and yours is not even medium”. Then I ghosted him. This is what they deserve. Dump him. Yesterday. No explanations and discussions needed.