Well, plain and simple, we’ve been dating for a little over a year, he’s just been distant lately, he says it’s because of his home and work life, he was very sweet and affectionate before, not anymore now, I realized I was the only one who plans stuff, and i started thinking about breaking up when all he did for my birthday was send me a “happy birthday” text when I went out of my way to make him feel special in his, I feel my love for him is one sided.
I also caught him commenting flirty stuff once, when I confronted him about it he apologized and promised not to do it again and for his credit he didn’t, as far as I know.
Also something that really bothers me that he hasn’t been sexual with me for months, he also blames it on his work and home life but also his low testosterone, but he follows a lot of lewd accounts on instagram and comments frequently on posts, saying he’d go to war for hot fictional characters, he also barely comments on my posts and doesn’t talk about me or being in a relationship, which also bothers me, he only commented on a post once, there was also an incident where he deleted a comment I made on one of his posts and said he tried to pin it but accidentally deleted it cause he was drunk.
And it’s just, I feel really unloved, he does let me rant and reassure me about being pretty and that he loves me but I’m not sure if that’s true, i feel like he bears with me because I’m the only option he has for now, and that he’ll leave me for someone better if they come along.
Should I break up with him or am i overthinking this?
Should I wait for him to feel better and give him time?
TL;DR: thinking about breaking up with my bf because he’s been distant and hasn’t been active with me for a while, should I?
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You started dating this dude when you were 20? And they were 31? Yes, not reading any of your post with all due respect but yikes