TL;DR Hello we’ve been together for a few weeks but I’ve known him for more than 5 years and i was talking to him (my s/o) about sex because he was saying he wants too much and i’ve always been scared of getting pregnant and he said “just take the damn pill” then i said if i got pregnant i would probably end it all because that’s my biggest fear and he hit me with “i mean it’s like I’d leave or some shit but damn it’s too early to think about these things” I’m extremely confused did he meant he would leave if that happened or??
then after a while he said “leaving a girl just because she’s pregnant is so dirty” now i’m extremely confused??
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Are you like texting to have these conversations? Talk in person so you can clarify?
You’re gonna have to ask him what he means.
But in any case the dude is pressuring you into sex and taking birth control pills a few weeks in, what makes him worth this bullshit?
we literally cannot know what he meant, especially since he contradicted himself later. You need to ask HIM.
Call him, sis, and ask him what he meant. It could’ve been a typo, who knows
He’s way too grown to not be having adult conversations about sex and reproductive health. I literally thought he was 19. Don’t put yourself through the trouble of dating a 30 year old that can’t take equal ownership of that kind of stuff.
So basically he doesn’t wanna wear condoms is what he’s saying. He wants you to take the pill and all the risks, weight gain, mood swings that come along with it.
You say you’ve already forgiven him for a bunch of crappy stuff he’s done, when are you gonna figure out that this is not a good guy?
If you’re not in birth control (and I don’t mean condoms), you need to get on some. There are tons of options. You should not be having sex without being on birth control.
Also, listen to what he said first. He is not going to support a pregnancy. The backtracking is just so you’ll keep having sex with him.
Have you asked him what he means by that? What did he say when you asked him?
To answer your original question:
“It’s like I’d leave or some shit”
He is saying you’re over-reacting and acting like he would leave you or do something like that if you got pregnant. In other words, he is saying that yiu should believe that if he impregnated you, he’d stick around, but he is also sayin he doesn’t think you guys should be thinking about all this so early in the relationship.
He is immature and manipulating you.
Early is EXACTLY the right time to talk about what would happen if you had an unplanned pregnancy.