I work from home and she works on-site.
We’ve been living together for about one and a half year now, I do everything for daily since I’m the one staying and working at home, so I have the time to always cook for us, do all our laundry, it’s easy cause I got an automatic washing machine, now if I don’t do things for her she gets a little bit upset.
Since we lived together, it feels like I’m just becoming a “maid”. I always make sure I take her to work and get her after work, it’s just a 30 minutes drive so no problem and it doesn’t have a conflict of schedule with my work so why not, It’s better to make sure that I know she will get to work and back to home safely.
Before we get to live together, our sexual intimacy is bad, we’ve met on a dating app and now I think it’s becoming worse, I always initiate everything, she kiss and hug me and all but that’s it, when it comes to sex it’s okay with her even we reach a month of no sex and she will not still initiate.
I opened to her about it but it’s still the same and now it’s becoming worse, often when I try to initiate she always tells me that she’s “tired” and she prefer to just watch on her phone or watch TV if we’re just staying at home on weekends cause she says it’s only her rest day, our sex life sucks, I have an average manhood size of a 14 pro max for size reference, I try pleasure her as much as I can and after that, that’s just it no pleasure for me in return, it’s okay for me if it’s just a one time thing but this is going on for like the rest of our relationship.
With all these it feels like it’s now a one-sided relationship, I realize that I should make myself not always available for her eventho we live together cause she isn’t for me and it feels like I lose self-respect if I just let it be like this always, I’m starting to feel like a maid here eventho I shoulder more than half of our expenses here and it feels like it’s unfair for me.
I’m becoming irritative like last week, I usually let it be when she often leave her laundry just hanging in the bathroom until I do our laundry even when the laundry basket is just literally outside the bathroom and becoming irritative that I am with all these things I’m feeling, I told her about it that she should at least put it in the basket and in the end she gets upset with me.
All these little things that I’m starting to think I just become a maid, not a bf anymore, you know someone who would do things for someone and in return you only just get a salary and nothing else but the salary is non-existent.
TLDR, I’m thinking to tell her or should I tell her that if she doesn’t or at least try to make up with my needs as a man and partner, I will stop doing things for her or limit the things I do for her?