I’ve known my girlfriend since we met a few years ago. From the beginning, we connected on so many levels—our sense of humor, values, and how we genuinely enjoy each other’s company. She told me early on that she’s transgender, and it didn’t change how I felt about her. I fell in love with her for who she is, not labels.
One of the reasons I love her so much is how much she cares for me. She does so many things for me—cooks my meals, prepares my clothes, supports me in everything I do. Honestly, sometimes I feel uncomfortable with how much she gives, because I want to contribute equally, but she always says she does it because she loves me. Even when I protest, she insists that helping me and taking care of me makes her happy.
We’ve been in a serious relationship for over a year now, and I want to marry her. The problem is my parents. They are very traditional, and the moment I mentioned our relationship seriously, they reacted very negatively. They say they can’t accept it and that I’m making a huge mistake.
I respect my family deeply and have always valued their guidance. We’re very close, and their opinions mean a lot to me. This has put me in an impossible position. I feel like I’m being torn between the person I love and the family I respect and admire.
I want to be honest—I don’t want to lose my parents’ love, but I also can’t ignore my feelings for her. Has anyone faced a similar situation where love and family expectations clash this strongly? How did you navigate it without completely losing either side?
TL;DR: I (27M) am in love with my transgender girlfriend (26F) and want to marry her, but my traditional parents strongly oppose it. I’m torn between my love for her and my family’s expectations.