Trying to keep long story short I 31m meant this girl 32f. We really like each other and seems like we’re going somewhere. She got this friend group of 3 guys and 3 girls that seems really cool. So one day we was hanging out she want to take the next step in our relationship. Before we did we ask each other a lot of questions so in some point she admitted that she had sex with 3 of those guys. I ask her how recent she said 1 was 10 years ago other 1 was 6 years ago and last one was 1 WEEK AGO. That really made me uncomfortable and I ended with her.
So right now she trying to convince me that there’s nothing going on and she set boundaries for her friends and they will respect that now and saying she don’t hang out with the guys alone. She offer her phones to me and trying to reassure me that she has no intention of betraying me.
Her female friends saying that I should shouldn’t let the past effect me but the problem is not what happen in the past but she still hanging with the guys she had sexual relationships with. She’s been with them like 10 plus years she don’t want to let them go.
I give her points for being honest but that doesn’t mean I have to accept this. All her friends on her side all of my friends on my side so now I need unbiased opinions. What do y’all think of this?
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Hold on, how long have you been dating?
Because you said she fucked the other dude a week ago?
EH one of the guys she had sex with a week ago and that’s not got your alarm bells ringing? What was the next step in your relationship with her? This is what you do: Run! She has betrayed you. Dump her.
A relationship shouldn’t feel like a minefield of ex-lovers pretending to be just friends.
Don’t let her (or her friends) gaslight you into accepting what you’re not comfortable with.
She’s allowed to fuck her friends and keep them around. You’re allowed to say “no thanks.”
you’re just incompatible.
How long ago have you guys been dating? if you guys have only been talking for 2-4 weeks it seems less crazy, still weird though. If you guys have been dating 2-3 months then more of a red flag, idk. I guess I’d want to know why she was sleeping with her close male friends (not a random hookup with a stranger) right before she decided she wanted to enter a serious relationship with you.
>What do y’all think of this?
You did the right thing. 3 Men in her Friendsgroup and she slept with all 3 of them. The last one just ONE WEEK ago while she was dating you. Thats a major red flag.
LAST WEEK BUT ITS TOTALLY COOL
Lmao fuck that. Every day will be another door opening on the nativity calendar of ex fuck buddy surprises. She literally fucked ALL of her guy friends, one mere days ago. Yeah, good for her for being comfortable with herself and being honest with you but that’s a huge no from me.
Updateme
One week? are you shagging at all? noticed any odd sores or weeping fluids from your junk? runnaway Forrest. Mental torment awaits with sharp pointy teeth.
Come on. She was having sex with someone else last week but now wants to be exclusive to you? Please get tested and move on.
Its a bit of a red flag to admit fucking every guy friend in the group. At least she took her time..
I think I miss type some things before save the confusion we actually dating now but a week before we made it official that when she admitted it to all that
Those aren’t her friends they are her “friends with benefits” that she keeps close for when she is lonely.
I’m a woman with a friend group that contains 4 guys we have known each other for years, I was roommates with 2 of the guys over the years. There has never been any romantic interest between us and the most physical contact ever shared had been a congratulatory hug or a supportive hug when something bad has happened (a death in their family or a break up things like that)
The fact that she slept with one of these guys a week ago is crazy, like why do you want to be with someone like that who can’t be “friends” with a guy unless she has a sexual history with them? The message it sends is that she isn’t serious about a real relationship with you she is interested in adding another “follower” to her group of fwb prospects.
Bro you are dodging a bullet there. All these friends are gonna be waiting right by the corner on every hiccup of your relationship.
Theres an old saying, “You dont sh*t where you eat”.
Casually sleeping with your friends is sh*tting where you eat.
This is exactly the kind of partners you want to stay the F away from.
Seems like the group of friends are bean bags and your girl is the cornhole…
Where do you live?