We matched on a dating app and have been chatting non-stop for two weeks. We’re in different cities at the moment, but we’re both moving back to NYC in a month or two.
In a phone call the other day she said she was going camping and I asked if she was solo camping. She hesitated (which I clocked) and said yes.
Last night she didn’t respond to a message, which she always does.
Today she says she stayed with friends she knew when she used to live in said city and stayed in their motel.
Then she said she was too scared to camp alone.
So… Your friends just happened to be staying in a motel nearby when you were intending to solo camp?
Honesty is important to me. At the same time we haven’t even met in person and I have a date scheduled for Sunday. Not sure how to approach this.
I want to call it out, but I also have a date planned.
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Dont play games at 39 and 33 dude.
Just tell her honesty is important to you. explain the situation, That you know she misled you, you would like to know why, and you would like to know if she is seeing other people, you would like to be informed so that you can assess the situation clearly.
That any relationship you want to enter, you want full transparency and openness, you dont want games.
Start there and see her reply. But I would be very wary.
Let’s be honest if she already lies about these things what could she lie about more right? Do you want to be in a relationship where you have to overthink and feel anxiety creeping up every time she has to go somewhere or do you wanna have atleast some peace and stability?
A lie stays a lie. Liar.
I don’t even see a point in getting involved. Before you two even met, there is about to be a serious talk.
You already want to call her out for a lie. Thinking she is untrustworthy.
I also believe that within 2 weeks of meeting a stranger… You’re not entitled to know every detail about their life. They have a bit of right to choose what information they share with a complete stranger. You haven’t earned that position yet with her.
I feel its a bit intrusive to expect to know exactly what’s going on with someone you just met.
You two haven’t even had a date yet… But about to have a serious conversation about boundaries and expectations… Way too early for this kind of stuff.
What are you going to do?
Interrogate her about the details regarding her trip? You haven’t even met her. She doesn’t owe you that yet.
I am not trying to approve of lying by any means.
But I am trying to defend someone’s right to decide how much and when they want to start being more open with a total stranger. That’s the position you’re in right now, a stranger. To expect to know these details so soon, comes off as entitlement to me.
I’d skip it, haven’t even met and she’s lieing.
She was getting railed on by some other dude and didn’t want to admit it.
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Haven’t even met. Talking for two weeks. She doesn’t owe you the fucking truth. These people in the comments are high. Ever heard the expression, you earn trust. You ain’t earned shit in two weeks and she doesn’t owe you shit. Do HER a favor and drop this so she can move on with whoever she went camping with.
Some person I’ve just started talking to online asked me if I’m going to be alone while camping…
Might have freaked her out a bit.
There’s a saying:
“Bitches be lying”
Rings true
And dont get into crypto 🙏
39 and still unsure about dating?