I’m not a drug addict or mentally ill. I just made dumb choices in my early 20s and I moved away from the place I had a life at a few years ago and ever since I left I missed my home. So I made a rushed decision to move back because I know I’m gonna get back on my feet in a few weeks or months. So financially and stability wise I trust myself to get it together again. And I don’t care that I have to sleep in my car or use public spaces to fill my time right now. I’m job searching like crazy so I can get a place to stay. I know in a few months I’ll be ok.
But mentally I’m at rock bottom. I have a few friends here. Very good people to have while I’m at my lowest low. I just feel like the world’s biggest loser right now. I’m so behind in life and now I’m homeless. I did not realize how hard it was to be all alone and not have a place to stay. My stress and depression are going crazy right now. Might be worse cause I’m a bit sleep deprived.
I’m trying to become an electrician and join the union in new jersey but idk if it’ll be so easy to just “become an electrician”. It bums me out. I just wanna have a life yk. My own place, to not worry about bills, and to have my own people. Life is just so hard sometimes
Edit: I also have about $1100 rn if you guys know how I can put this to the best of use
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Hold on to that hope. As long as you have even the tiniest bit of hope you can endure whatever life throws at you.
“idk if it’ll be so easy to just ‘become an electrician’.”
So maybe it will be hard. You may have to figure some other things out in the meantime. But it’s a plan. So don’t worry about all the things that could go wrong, you’ll deal with them when they come. Figure out the concrete steps that needed to be taken to get you from point A to point B. Then start it, one step at a time. Probably all starts with a phone call.
Are your friends allowing you to stay at their place and offering you to provide their address for receiving mail?
I heard that that is the biggest struggle to get back in the saddle. Can’t confirm but spent some time on the almosthomeless sub.
As long as you have a social network you’ll pull through. Society is not conducive to going at it alone, I hope you’ll come out stronger on the other side. If things get tougher than expected, don’t forget that luck is key. Hard work is only part of the equation.
Godspeed and spend quality time with your friends for mental upkeep!
You can’t change your past, but you can change your future.
Call the union hall and tell them your situation and what you want to do. See if they can give you a path to reaching that goal.
Damn I’m hoping you the best my friend. Don’t give up though. Imagine yourself achieveing everything you want and use it to fuel your everyday struggles. You got this. You can do it.
I wasn’t quite homeless at 25, but went through something similar. Had my car repossessed, which prevented me from getting to my job and wasn’t going to be able to pay the next month’s rent. Managed to land a part-time job at Apple Retail and pick up enough shifts to get by. Was promoted and got full time within 6 months, which allowed me to go back to school. Moved cross country a couple years later, met my wife, graduated and even went to grad school. I’m now 41, my wife and I are solidly upper-middle class, and I’m in the process of launching my own business.
All this to say that if you just remain persistent, you’d be surprised how quickly things can turn around. For now, I’d recommend getting a cheap gym membership at Planet Fitness or something, just to ensure you have access to showers and such. I think going the electrician route is a smart move (and one I almost pursued myself) because it is one of the few jobs relatively safe from AI and automation.
Just keep that end goal in mind and keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Everything’s temporary. If you told me when I was so down and out, robbed left with nothing and in a corner of some run down place that id be where I am today 7 years later id never believe it. Trust me what I say that it doesn’t last forever, nothing does. Keep trying to get on your feet, never give up. If you can overcome then one day you’ll look back and realize it made you become who you are. Gl bud
Banners flying on NJ beaches urge people to join the carpenters union. Look into it.
Greetings sir!
Get the gym membership, you can shower and work out there.
Be ready to do good work, learn, and work hard. You can have an amazing life, you just have to make specific and intentional choices to succeed.