I’m a black girl that lives in Crown Heights Brooklyn, and around once week I hang out with a Hasidic man in my apartment.

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I just needed to get it off my chest. We don’t have sex, but there is attraction and we talk about it.

Comments

  1. skp_trojan Avatar

    Wow. Isn’t there a New Yorker cover about this?

  2. smokingonquiche Avatar

    How’d you guys meet? 

  3. xNotJosieGrossy Avatar

    This is a rather bland confession.

    Are you sneaking bacon in his food? Are you already married? Are you a lesbian? Was he your 3rd grade teacher?

  4. sergio_mcginty Avatar

    How do you see this playing out?

  5. More-Talk-2660 Avatar

    I do not understand why this is a confession. Someone please explain.

  6. FamousShoulder3262 Avatar

    I’m black girl married to a red headed Irish man, what’s the confession?

  7. mango_bingo Avatar

    You and your bestie are both good-looking folks. Such a wholesome confession.

  8. potsieharris Avatar

    Is there something shameful about hanging out with Hasidic/Jewish people? Why is this a confession?

  9. highmindednessneedle Avatar

    I have an actual confession. I’ve been the Hasidic man the whole time, I just didn’t know how to tell you

  10. MyFoundersStayed Avatar

    Obviously, y’all don’t live in Crown Heights to understand how nuanced this is. OP, how did y’all’s “friendship” develop?

  11. GothSue Avatar

    OP I understand why you’ve made this post. I know you’re not asking for advice but I’m going to throw some your way. No matter what attraction you may have you’re not going to be anything to this man, because you’re not hasidic. Don’t get invested, emotionally or physically!!
    If this feels to you like you’re confessing it’s probably because on some level you know what’s up.

  12. Substantial-Ear2951 Avatar

    What are you waiting for? Have sex with the guy!!

  13. SomeNefariousness562 Avatar

    (Cue west side story music)

  14. victoriaplants Avatar

    I adore a progressive love story 🥰

    ..and even if it’s just a friendship story

  15. Spoiledbabies Avatar

    Following for more info
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  16. shroomenheimer Avatar

    I dated a black girl that lived in Forest Hills and she was treated very poorly by the local Hasidic population.

    It shouldn’t be a big deal that you made a new friend but I understand why it is in this case. I hope everything works out for you two!

  17. _MechanicalBull Avatar

    I’m a black man and I used to have a rotation of 4 white women I had sex with on a weekly basis. Some married.

    See? Nobody cares.

  18. HowYouDoinz Avatar

    How old are you?

  19. A96 Avatar

    Let him put his matzoh balls into your bowl of soup.

  20. Logical-Common-1406 Avatar

    This is relatable. I dated a Hasidic guy a few years back, and it had to be a complete secret. Just don’t fall for him the way I did with mine, he’s always gonna pick his way of life over you.

  21. Substantial-Ear2951 Avatar

    Let him go and move on.

  22. Zionishere Avatar

    What does this mean?

  23. Chacabuco17 Avatar

    You got an encounter with a rare NPC

  24. Ashtonchris88 Avatar

    I need all the details on this…is he not afraid that someone will find out? Do you guys text or talk on the phone?

  25. babygirl-is-trying Avatar

    Sorry, OP. I feel like some of the commenters aren’t familiar with theHasidic Jewish community there in Brooklyn and don’t see why it’s a bit surprising. Either way, love this friendship for both of you. What things did you initially bond over? And what does he say about his attraction for you?

  26. acquired1taste Avatar

    I think that’s cool! You are opening up his world, and learning about his.

  27. Goodvibesonly__GVO Avatar

    Such an unfortunate situation. Kind of a heart breaking situation because it’s highly unlikely that he will leave his religion. And even if he did have the heart to do that one day, they will either treat you poorly or he will be disowned. I hope you guys can at least be friends to some extent.

  28. OpenDaCloset Avatar

    Boy am I sick of all the rampant racism in the USA. Its exhausting and seems much more amplified with this crazy MAGA movement. I hope you have something special with him whoever this is that you’re meeting up with. To live in a world where you are simply accepted for who you are. Maybe in another lifetime. 🙏

  29. heart_man8 Avatar

    With the sideburns?

  30. aznic32 Avatar

    Nobody cares just do your bed wench duties and keep it pushing. Im from Brooklyn and I’M very familiar with Crown Heights. Nostrand ave Eastern Parkway etc etc

  31. eloquent_owl Avatar

    Sounds like the plot for an a story of overcoming differences and finding love! Or just an interesting anecdote if you meet somebody who’s a better match.

  32. Live_Fox_578 Avatar

    These people in these comments are probably not from NY and don’t understand lol Hasidic Jews have whole areas that are just Jewish people and they don’t like outsiders and they just marry their own people so that’s why this is “abnormal” (not saying there’s anything wrong with it of course but the culture is different)

  33. To_WAR Avatar

    Whatever works for you guys. Just make sure you’re on the same page on how you plan to move forward with whatever you see the relationship developing into.

  34. sreggin5 Avatar

    Did you curl his payot?

  35. Elizzy0504 Avatar

    This is definitely mad Brooklyn

  36. kween_of_bees Avatar

    I’d watch this movie.

  37. Safe_Flan4610 Avatar

    I see no problem here .

  38. Throwawayiea Avatar

    Conservative Jewish men are known for fucking black women and then using “their religion” when they dump them. So, watch out!

  39. RegisterOk2927 Avatar

    A make friend of mine was propositioned by a hasid and proceeded to go to a coke and booze rager with him. They get down for sure

  40. lasagnamurder Avatar

    I tried this. Converted orthodox for him. I still wasn’t good enough.

  41. Daver_Xander Avatar

    That sounds like the beginning of a New York Times Bestselling novel. Lol. “There i was, with my Hasidic neighbor every Friday when…….”. Lol.

  42. Mr_E_Nigma_Solver Avatar

    These comments are actually insane. It’s all just people who don’t know any hasidic jews or black people explaining why this is such an unlikely and special dynamic. this shit is normal in crown heights.

  43. frogmicky Avatar

    Well if Sammy Davis Jr can do it so can I dammit.