I’m a flight attendant. Ask me Anything.

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I am a flight attendant. I work for a major airline. I am here to answer any questions you may have about the trade, customs and courtesies, or anything else really.

I am more than happy to cover the NSFW side of the trade, the answers to which will probably bore you. But please do be respectful of both myself, as well as other users.

And to answer the one question that I get most often from people not involved in this lifestyle, no, I have not joined the mile high club.

thank you everyone for reading and asking questions. I’m exhausted now though, so I apologize if I didn’t get to you.

Comments

  1. IceBoxPete Avatar

    Is it true the hot water for tea or coffee is from the bathroom sink?

  2. bigupman30 Avatar

    Not really a question but can you slap the assholes that clap and/or get up to get their bags when taxi-ing. Please and thanks

  3. tossthisinthebucket Avatar

    If you had to do it all over again, would you still become a FA?

  4. Conscious_Stomach637 Avatar

    What was the rudest encounter you’ve had with a passenger?

  5. Evilspatula666 Avatar

    Can you give some tips to get upgrades- and or any suggestions for a better experience?

  6. d1s986 Avatar

    Most annoying passenger story and nicest passenger story

  7. SeeingSongs Avatar

    What’s a good way for passengers to make a flight attendant’s job easier?

  8. PC_Friar Avatar

    Do you ever get time to see the places you have to travel to? If so what’s your favorite place to go?

  9. Administrative_Ad160 Avatar

    Do people give you stuff like snacks and goodies? Is that something that would put them in the good books and get extra in flight stuff?

  10. No_Independence8747 Avatar

    Weirdest country you’ve traveled to?

  11. chepe1302 Avatar

    How did you get a job? Also what are the pros and cons

  12. moshdef Avatar

    Of all of the flights you’ve been on, have you ever felt unsafe? Either from the plane/flight or a passenger on board?

  13. Mysterious-Apple-118 Avatar

    Have you experienced any emergencies flying? And since you brought it up, have you busted anyone for going the Mile High club?

  14. AmbitiousStomach4564 Avatar

    What is the worst smelling food that passengers bring on?

  15. JazzlikeCost1498 Avatar

    Is it true that airline pilots are notoriously unfaithful to their spouses. Is the same true for flight attendants?

  16. Abject-Picture Avatar

    How many FAs have a man in several cities? I once saw a CL ad from one looking for one specifically asking for a hookup when she visits.

  17. Rthrowaway6592 Avatar

    I live in Australia and fly home to Canada to visit (Vancouver airport). How do I make the flight bearable? How much free beer can I order before ya’ll hate me? I just want to get tipsy and go to sleep lol

  18. laakarma Avatar

    How does a career ladder looks like for for FA. Also is this a job for younger people only?

  19. Dirty_Questions69 Avatar

    Have you ever caught anyone trying to join the mile high club?

  20. shamwu Avatar

    What’s the deal with airplane food

  21. Dirty_Questions69 Avatar

    Have you or any other flight attendants you know had sex with a pilot in the cockpit?

  22. Dirty_Questions69 Avatar

    What’s the worst part about your job?

  23. Dirty_Questions69 Avatar

    What’s your age and gender?

  24. awkwardlypragmatic Avatar

    How clean are the airplane seats? I’ve taken to wiping down the armrests, the table etc with a disinfectant wet wipe, anything that can be wiped down really. Should I be doing more? Like bringing my own bedsheet or pillowcase when I need to rest my head in my seat?

  25. NotHereToSayMuch Avatar

    Have you ever been on a flight that was preparing for an emergency landing or something to go wrong in landing? Do they teach you a more in depth safety speech.

    I was on a flight in Norway that was preparing for winds to knock us off the runway after we had to change our landing to a bigger airport. I was surprised the flight attendants had a more detailed speech for what would happen and what to do. I wasn’t sure if that was a universal practice or not.

  26. Green-Cranberry7651 Avatar

    Is the whole flight attendant/pilot thing real?

  27. justix-1Q3Q Avatar

    Wearing makeup and always making sure you look good is exhausting. Do you have any skincare tips?

    Thank you for all the work you do!

  28. mr_2025_ Avatar

    I’m not saying you, but is the old rumor true, do flight attendants sleep with the pilots?

  29. NervousRefrigerator Avatar

    Whats your best tip for people who have severe flight anxiety and should we bring it up to the flight attendants?

    Thank you for what you do! I don’t think enough people understand that your job is SO much more than giving safety instructions and passing out food and drinks. 

  30. monkey_monkey_monkey Avatar

    When I get to my seat, I wipe it and everything around it like tray table, air vent, etc. with alcohol wipes. I fly semi frequently and am just trying to cut down on picking cold and flu. A couple flights back, a the passenger beside me said I shouldn’t do it because it’s insulting to the aircrew. Apparently I am implying they don’t clean properly. I still do it, but is it actually insulting that I do it?

    Also, is it true that we should never order tea or coffee because the hot water machines never get properly cleaned?

  31. SCPalmers Avatar

    If I’m in comfort plus, and would like a drink (before or after the bev cart comes around) is it okay to use the call button to request it?

  32. Relevant-Net1082 Avatar

    On a flight back to vegas, I had a couple sit next to me that reeked of skunky weed. It was so bad. Are there any guidelines about passengers that are funky?

  33. needsTimeMachine Avatar

    Are certain airlines better than others? Does everyone in the industry try to work for those airlines?

    Is there an age at which they “retire out” flight attendants? Is this for safety reasons? I rarely see flight attendants in their 50’s or older.

  34. WaitingitOut000 Avatar

    When people ask for the whole can of pop (other than you just pouring some into a cup) are you silently judging them?

  35. AtypicalPreferences Avatar

    Should we not be reclining on flights? Does it matter if it’s a short v long haul flight?

  36. Shaeos Avatar

    You’ve saved me from creeps before and made my first solo flight okay. You celebrated my 13th birthday with me. Your entire profession needs a raise and more rights. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. Thanks to yall I can now sleep on planes

  37. dragonlord9000 Avatar

    Are there a lot of hookups within the industry back at the hotels

  38. goonervern Avatar

    Hi , who’s the nicest/ worst celebrity you have had on .?

  39. pi3_14159_ Avatar

    How is your sleep and do you get used to the jetlag?

  40. DotImmediate7019 Avatar

    Is is true “ don’t drink the coffee”

  41. Difficult-Disk-1957 Avatar

    I always give the crew some kind of treat when I fly overseas. I was flying Madrid > PHL last week and bought the crew a big box of candy because I know their job is hard.

    What’s the coolest thing a passenger gave you or the crew?

  42. Sad_Picture3642 Avatar

    Have you caught any of the passengers masturbating, giving/getting head or outright fucking?

  43. LoopyMercutio Avatar

    Considering the pay difference and the fact that the schedule is the same, have you (or any other FAs you know) made the move to become a pilot?

  44. Wide_Breadfruit_2217 Avatar

    I see pics of people throwing hair over seat, taking off shoes and other gross stuff. If someone really does something to invade anothers space, etc can you guys help? Or are we expected to deal on our own?

  45. Dirty_Questions69 Avatar

    Have you ever been on a flight that had to make an emergency landing because of misbehaving passenger?

  46. Successful_Exam_5048 Avatar

    Are you from India ? Just trying to guess it by seeing your Avatar.
    If yes ,Are Indians rude and indisciplined in the flights , compared to other people

  47. Agreeable-Damage9119 Avatar

    What airport has the nicest hotels?

  48. celerypooper Avatar

    Is it true many pilots and flight attendants are constantly having affairs especially with lay over flights? I once knew a flight attendant who told me MANY pilots have gfs in cities they frequently fly to, and it’s not uncommon for the flight attendants to want to sleep with the pilots…please share your experiences

  49. DJPunish Avatar

    Ever seen anyone join the mile high club? Anyone hit on you very straight forward? Thanks for answering. Also is there weight limits? Every flight attendant I have ever seen has been slim and good looking!

  50. 1234iamfer Avatar

    Who you be able to sit in the cockpit and recognise some of the controls. Do you have general idea of the planes technology?

  51. ps4db Avatar

    What sort of aircraft do you usually fly ? Do you have a preference ?

    Have you ever had to deal with unruly passengers ? What did you do?

    Your favourite destination that you’ve visited as part of your work and your least favourite !

    Thanks for the AMA

  52. Mini_And_Andrew Avatar

    I worked in the aviation world my entire professional career. I still fly quite often. I respect the flight crew on every trip, always. Their part time job is to serve the flying public as best they can. Their full time job is to ensure safety by responding to emergencies and taking necessary actions when and if they occur. This is what they train for. That should matter to everyone.

    I count my rows to the nearest exit as I am taking my seat.It’s my responsibility. It’s yours as well.

    It’s really easy to be a smooth person. Try it and you’ll understand. I get really agitated with the passengers who feel entitled or something…still can’t figure out what. I’ll take 10 crying babies over a single obnoxious passenger every time.

    Keep on keeping on Crew.

  53. motionpix3l Avatar

    I see lots of FA that are pretty up kept. How strict are the appearance requirements?

  54. mouseinstalled45 Avatar

    Is a co pilot ever locked out of the cockpit or is there a code they use to get back in? Like coming back from a bathroom break.

  55. poofyeyebags Avatar

    If a passenger wants you to step in because they are not happy with the seat in front of them being reclined and leaving them little leg room, what do you do? Do you ask the person in front to straighten up, or do you move the annoyed passenger to a different seat altogether?

  56. GWS2004 Avatar

    I’m terrified of flying and fly next month. I always watch you all and am so envious of how cool and calm you always are. Thank you for your calm presence.

    Is having anxiety while flying something I should tell the flight attendants when I board?
    My fear is a plane crash and yes though I understand statistics, anxiety does not 😩

  57. carrotsaresafe Avatar

    What is the limit of drinks you can serve to an individual on a 3-4 hour flight? Ive had flight attendants tell me they cant serve me more than 2, so over time I just stopped asking after my second on-board drink, but I always wondered if it was bc they noticed I was already tipsy when I boarded by my eyes or smell or something.

  58. Leather-Ad-1279 Avatar

    Did you have to swim for training?

  59. DA2710 Avatar

    Anyone using bitcoin or talking about at the corporate level

  60. responsiblesardine Avatar

    Have you read or watched The Flight Attendant? Minus the plot is it an accurate representation of how flight attendants operate?

  61. WelcomeMatt1 Avatar

    A chartered Virgin Australia plane (mining charter) was delayed once in my remote town, with a couple of hundred passengers delayed for several hours. The flight operator didn’t offer anything to the passengers by way of food or drink during the lengthy delay as there was very limited service at the regional airport.

    As a gesture of community, I bought the entire plane and flight crew dinner at the local pub.

    A couple of weeks later, I was hand delivered a wrapped box by the local baggage service guys. The pilot and cabin crew had pitched in to buy me a gift for buying the plane dinner.

    Inside the box were some handmade soaps, a card, a book, some smelly stuff, and to my utter surprise a fleshlight.

    My question is; what kind of conversations do flight crews have during their shift that may lead to gift ideas like that?

  62. justus0203 Avatar

    When we travel my kids like to hand out mini mentos to the flight staff. Is this appreciated or a bother? should we stop doing it?

  63. lecroitg Avatar

    What’s the best way to ask out an FA? What are the odds of getting a yes?

  64. Raid__Zero Avatar

    Have you watched the show Airline by a&e?

    It’s a show about airports and FA’s.

  65. Illustrious-Newt-848 Avatar

    Thank you for generously offering your time and energy to us here. 🙂

    It’s okay if you don’t get to this question. How does the FA/crew honestly feel about those who still mask on flights, and spend time whipping down the seats, etc? From 0-10, is that a positive or a negative? Does it make you uncomfortable/disgusting reminder of the pandemic, or do you find them a positive?

    Thank you!

  66. ZMac90 Avatar

    When I was basic training for the US Army, my mom passed away. Back in the fall of 2010 I came home on emergency leave, flew in uniform since I didn’t even have civilian clothes at the time.

    There was one very very sweet flight attendant who must’ve perceived the level of emotional distress in me, she came over and said “sir, you have a seat in first class waiting for you and they’re going to start serving dinner soon. You should move.”

    This absolute Angel of a human brought me to first class, gave me three Jack and cokes and an amazing salmon dinner, and sat with me and chatted.

    Now, 15 years later, I realize how much I needed that at the time.

    Not sure if you’re out there, but thank you.

  67. thebalancewithin Avatar

    Can a flight attendant upgrade me once I’m boarded? Like if I ask about moving up to seating with more leg room that’s vacant?

  68. glms4223 Avatar

    Any advice to someone who wants to become a flight attendant? Tips that will help my application stick out from the rest?

  69. Expensive_Finding_74 Avatar

    I like to properly listen to the safety briefing and look at the FA while they’re demonstrating/speaking so that they know at least one passenger gives a shit lol and it doesn’t feel totally pointless. But sometimes I wonder if I overdo it and it makes the FA uncomfortable. Do you like it if people do like I do?

  70. WarmTransportation35 Avatar

    Do you watch Jeeny Weeny videos on youtube and do you watch other ex-flight attendant content creators?