I’m a loser that still lives with their elderly mom at 24

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I’m 23 now but I dropped out of high school due to mental health issues. I eventually did get a job that I had for a few years but eventually quit. Then covid happened and staying at home didn’t eventually help.

I started to get my GED and I didn’t really work on it so I eventually stopped and put all my time onto work.

Things didn’t work out and I moved back in with my parents. During that time I was looking for new jobs but didn’t get a call back or anything and that didn’t help my self-esteem.

I did go back to work on my GED and I was going pretty good at it but stopped after I had a mental breakdown. A few weeks ago they asked if I was coming back in because they keep in touch and ask how it’s going.

I replied that I was going through a midlife crisis and they asked how they could help. I didn’t reply after that and haven’t talk to them since

My dad died not that long ago and that didn’t make things better so now it’s just me and my mom. So as of right now I still don’t have a job.

I help around the house and run errands if some need to be done. But I still feel like a complete disappointment and I feel like that to my family and friends.

Now I just feel completely numb and don’t care. I spend most of my time getting really high or drunk while playing video games and watch a lot of porn.

I really don’t care what happens to me and I really want it all to end.

Comments

  1. uberduberscoober Avatar

    You need to start exercising, it can make a world of difference mentally as well as physically

  2. TieBombers Avatar

    I was there.

    Are you able to find an employment agency? Even if it’s just for a part time job to add some sort of structure in your life and make a bit of cash on the side, it’s better than nothing.

  3. timteller44 Avatar

    Still very young to call it a wash this early. I did college and a trade and a brand new certification by 27 and I’m willing to be I still haven’t actually found my mojo. Things change, times change, and it’s never actually too late.

    Take some time to feel bad and then just pick a direction that seems interesting. You don’t have to stick with it but make sure you never stop learning. You’re gonna be fine.

  4. SnakeMcbain Avatar

    Right there with you buddy literally the same age as well

  5. Ninja-Massive Avatar

    Where are you getting drug and alcohol money ? Kinda silly complaining when you’re actively doing it to yourself. Save ur cash friend. Alcohol and weed will still be around in a year. If you lock the fuck in and grind for the rest of the year I think you could really do something productive. Peace and love homie ❤️🫡you got this

  6. AaronBleyaert Avatar

    Friend, you are so young. There is always time to stand back up and keep moving forward. Try not to get down on yourself – there are countless stories of people who began their lives in their 40s – and thats DECADES from where you are now! You’ve got plenty of time to do all the things you wanna do. Cut back on the self medicating with weed & booze and try to do a little something positive each day – even if that positive thing is taking a shower or going for a walk around the block. It’s okay, we all get down and feel like shit. And nobody’s life goes the way they want it to. But by no means are you a loser whose life is over! Just start making some small consistent changes and you’ll be surprised how quickly things will start to change for the better. Don’t get doscouraged! We’re all pulling for ya. 🙌

  7. RealKillerSean Avatar

    Bro a lot of people have to live with their families or roommates. Most of humanity as done this. You’re getting this bullshit idea from the very short-lived golden age after WW2 that is going to be difficult to recreate.

  8. NismoFerg Avatar

    You aren’t a failure and times are extremely rough. As someone who was exactly where you are I would suggest seeking help in the form of a counselor to help get yourself back on track. We are hardest on ourselves and can’t see ourselves in the same light that others see us. With the right support system on your side the pieces will fall into place and in a few years time you will reflect on this time and appreciate it for what it is, a chance to grow.