I’m a mainstream pornstar trying to break the stigma, so AMA.

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Questions I will not be answering:
1. My stage name, anything I have been in
2. People I have worked with or for
3. Anything purposefully rude

Trying to show the people who are set that pornstars are “pornstar hookers who are drug addicted cock sucking whores who deserve no life because used up” that we are in fact people and even if it’s 30% of the population who believe that, sad, but so be it

Comments

  1. JimboTheExaltedOne Avatar

    What is dating life like as a pornstar do you exclusively date other pornstars? What is your philosophy for having intimacy with your partner in relationships. Do you feel you are more sub or dom? Do you exclusively look for conventionally attractive people since you have presumably had many attractive sexual partners through work?

  2. octoberfourth00 Avatar

    Did you strive to become a pornstar or was it an opportunity that presented to you and you wanted to try it out?

  3. Slow_Description_773 Avatar

    Do you enjoy sex outside work ?

  4. PlatformWorldly8413 Avatar

    How old did you start? How did the first shooting go?

  5. Plus-Awareness-1192 Avatar

    What do you think about people who say pornography is detrimental to society? Especially noting the incredibly young ages people are exposed to it, the high rates of addiction and the recent studies linking excessive porn use and erectile dysfunction in young men.
    What’s your position on this stuff as someone who is in the industry?

  6. Silver_Draig Avatar

    Do you ever have pornographic dreams after a shoot?

  7. unclesmokedog Avatar

    Have you had problems banking/renting ?

  8. TwoToesToni Avatar

    Hi there, obviously there will be an area of the industry that is negative (like with most industries), what do you do to avoid those areas/people/jobs?

  9. DepressedPancake4728 Avatar

    Do you enjoy the sex?

  10. Tydeeeee Avatar

    What makes you think a AMA will change someones mindset on this?

  11. Cranberry-Electrical Avatar

    Are you independent contractor?

  12. HurinofLammoth Avatar

    What childhood trauma did you experience?

  13. illogicalelloquence Avatar

    What’s the catering like; What kind of sandwiches do you do?

  14. Local_Signature5325 Avatar

    Do people recognize you when you are doing normal things, like going to the grocery store?

  15. Electrical_One_3042 Avatar

    Favourite porn type to shoot?

  16. Megtheviking333 Avatar

    Is there ever any funny or embarrassing moments or aspects to your work?

  17. Hot-Yesterday8938 Avatar

    What’s that stigma?

  18. ProfPacific Avatar

    Do you have an agent?
    How do you book gigs?
    How many hours a week do you work?
    How much money do you make a month?

    Thank you so much for answering these questions!

  19. vanillarock Avatar

    have there been costars who were toxic or gave you trouble? do you like your job?

  20. FiveDogsInaTuxedo Avatar

    I can’t help but when hear stigma in the context of porn hear it more like ligma, but anyway why try and get right of the stigma it’s a moral decision on what defines morals, some agree some don’t? It’s not about what you do but the nature of it so? Or do you mean the stigma it’s all bad like forced coercion and violence and such?

  21. Cranberry-Electrical Avatar

    Have you tour the USA at strip clubs?

  22. Professional_Elk_489 Avatar

    What do you say to feminists who say porn is misogynistic

  23. sanfrancisco1998 Avatar

    Do you do gay, straight or lesbian porn?

  24. sayloremoon Avatar

    Does the OnlyFans platform make it hard for you to find work? Do you consider those type of models and content creators pornstars?

  25. spoofy129 Avatar

    I find most progressive people are generally pro adult industries when it’s at arms length, but when you ask them a question like, “would you be happy to have your daughter working in porn”, you’ll find a lot less support. Would you agree with that and how would you answer that question yourself?

  26. DeaduBeatu Avatar

    What does the BTS look like for those POV “semi-professional”(the ones that look like they’re recorded on an iPhone) videos? Is it just the 2 actors alone together? Whose houses do they film in and do they have to let the owners know that they’ll be filming a porno in them? Is there a stage crew that does the make up and clothing? Do you think there’s more success in the mainstream or the indie industry?

  27. natforx Avatar

    Thank you for sharing so openly about your journey in the world’s oldest profession 🙂 I am wondering have you ever been in a scene that made you uncomfortable? Could you talk about it?

  28. Silver_Draig Avatar

    No dreams about her profession.

  29. SexOnABurningPlanet Avatar

    Based on your experience, what impact have web cams had on the porn industry? By that, I mean cam models.

  30. FamiliarFig9327 Avatar

    what does mainstream pornstar mean

  31. CarpetExciting404 Avatar

    The culture of consumable sexual exploitation seems to be a major contributing factor in the popularity and increase of human trafficking, especially children. How do you rationalize working in a field that could inspire this kind of abuse? Do you believe pornography drives human trafficking?

  32. Starlights222 Avatar

    What advice would you give someone (namely, young and possibly naive women) looking to get into the industry to avoid shady/abusive situations? What can viewers of porn do to avoid watching content that may not have been completely consensual? Is it common for people who work in porn to also work as escorts (no disrespect intended, just wondering)? On a lighter note, what are your hobbies/interests outside of work? 

  33. Ok-Butterscotch2321 Avatar

    No matter what… there IS a path

    EVERYTHING is going to be stacked against you, especially if you did have some actual success in the Adult/Porn Film Industry.

    From Sasha Grey to Ginger Lynn to Sylvester Stallone… you just have to be RELENTLESS in proving them wrong.

  34. Electrical_One_3042 Avatar

    Follow up – what is your STI testing routine like? Any close calls?

  35. Southbayyy Avatar

    What “category” would you say you and your videos usually fall under? Or top 5 tags in your opinion?

  36. DarkAntiMOD Avatar

    Are there women and men who actually love this job and not just act like it on cam

  37. Babebutters Avatar

    Are you planning on having kids?

  38. sanfrancisco1998 Avatar

    You Mentioned childhood trauma and needing therapy do you think it’s true or a myth that everyone in the adult film industry has had some form of trauma in their lives?

  39. Tasty-Willingness839 Avatar

    Would we know who you are? Without naming names

  40. Strict_Sale_1657 Avatar

    This isn’t meant to be offensive in the slightest but I’ve always wanted to know.

    At the end of the day when you’re done and sat at home, do you ever feel sad about this career?

  41. ApprehensiveVisual97 Avatar

    You mentioned how dead in the bedroom can be helped by porn, can you elaborate on

  42. DanielFrancis13 Avatar

    My usual question seems like it could be taken the wrong way on this one, but here goes.

    What’s your favourite sausage?

  43. DearlyDysfunctional Avatar

    Porn expectations are unrealistic…so what am I supposed to be doing then if not moaning and all that stuff? 🤣😅🫣

  44. Candid_Umpire6418 Avatar

    No hating or shaming intended. I’m just curious about your set rules for the AMA. If you aim to break the stigma, why would you not be open about your work or stage name?

    I’m not fishing for details. I respect your decision and just want to hear your thoughts on said decision.

  45. Old_Essay_824 Avatar

    how do you feel about the porn, specifically OF, crossover into social media?

    before covid porn was siloed away in another part of the internet that, inevitably, kids would go looking for eventually. but now it’s just there all the time. soft porn, stunts, degradation, countless podcast clips normalising the “fake” nature of porn in relation to sex. i hate it. and i’m really concerned about the 11/12/13 year olds who are exposed to posts like these sandwiched between Mr Beast and cat videos.

    and before anyone responds with “aLgOrItHm” yes i appreciate that, but the social media algos work across many inputs. music, tags, mutual followers etc. it’s not as simple as “oh it’s your own fault”.

    i don’t have an issue with sex work, but absolutely have an issue with the marketing and PR tactics of sex workers.

  46. Ok_Rule2098 Avatar

    How did you get into this line of work? How much longer do you feel you can continue this line of work? Do you ever have real orgasms while working? Thanks for doing this AMA

  47. xXSMDXx Avatar

    Have you ever been concerned about family cumming across your content? It being discussed at Thanksgiving dinner? How that would affect your relationships with your family members? Do people you meet ever ask about your profession not anticipating your answer and do they act surprised?

  48. Jaybirdlordofskies Avatar

    After or during a shoot do you experience pain that requires surgery?

  49. Jaybirdlordofskies Avatar

    Whata your views on legalized prostitution?

  50. cippirimerlo Avatar

    I like the way you express yourself and the elegant use of English terms (English is not my native language btw). What level of schools did you attend? You read books? What is your favorite reading?

  51. MasterVariation1741 Avatar

    What metric is there to determine who is the bigger star? Something like searches on youporn or so?

    How does payment work? Does one initially get the union rate? Do you have an agents that has you in his catalogue with a price tag for your work?

  52. BitterSweetcandyshop Avatar

    What is the usually procedure to setup a shoot? Like how do you find the person you’re having sex with, how is a camera man found, etc? Do you have an agency currently or did you just splurge on personal camera equipment?

  53. Traditional_Load715 Avatar

    Have you been able to successfully balance any meaningful relationships with your career path?

  54. Shyam_Kumar_m Avatar

    What’s one common myth about the adult industry that you wish everyone would let go of?

  55. Shyam_Kumar_m Avatar

    How has the mainstream adult industry changed—or stayed the same—since you started?

  56. Shyam_Kumar_m Avatar

    What inspired you to enter the industry originally, and how have your motivations evolved over time?

  57. Shyam_Kumar_m Avatar

    What are some things you know from your experience as a porn star that we dont that could surprise us?

  58. Extension_Teacher215 Avatar

    Do girls really like Blacks or is that just the internet?

  59. Puzzleheaded-Ear202 Avatar

    Do you prefer big penises?

  60. Available_Ideal3314 Avatar

    I have a few questions if that’s alright, first of all thanks for being so open and answering so many questions.

    Do you worry that working in porn will effect future relationships when you do decide you want to start dating?
    As an addition to that, if you plan to have kids, do you worry that there will be effects they feel as they grow up from your profession prior to having them?

    How did your family/friends react when they became aware of your job (if they know)?

    Do you ever watch your own scenes back after filming?

    Hope none of these sound judgemental, they aren’t intended to whatsoever, and thanks again for being so open it’s really interesting!

  61. Haunting_Cancel_3194 Avatar

    Did you ever have sex with any of your fans?

  62. TheDUDE1411 Avatar

    Sorry for the barrage but I find this fascinating

    1. Have you worked with any of the big name studios (brazzers, reality kings, digital productions etc.) and if so who and do you enjoy working with big studios?

    2. Whats the health and safety process look like? Like protecting against pregnancy, STIs, injury

    3. Do you have some form of insurance for if you get harmed by something from question 2?

    4. What qualities get pornstars better pay? Like I imagine flexibility might get you more money/gigs cause you can do things less flexible pornstars do, as an example

    5. Do you have pornstar mentors? Not looking for names, I’m more curious what you ask your mentors about if you do

    6. Do you see porn as an art form? Cause I’ve seen some porn that’s masterfully crafted in acting, story, set design, and sex

    Feel free to answer any, some, or none of these. Thanks for doing this, its a really interesting field and its nice to see someone thats not shy about talking about the porn industry

  63. GregJamesDahlen Avatar

    why do you want to break the stigma?

  64. humanlearning Avatar

    What/which stigma?

  65. MarkyGalore Avatar

    Are you doing this to make a onlyfans name for yourself? How is catering at pro shoots?

  66. L_Vayne Avatar

    Have you thought about doing interviews on podcasts about changing the stigma?

  67. Time-Requirement-494 Avatar

    One of the main rumors that i have heard about porn production and general sexwork is that substance abuse is very widespread in these enviroments. Would you say that it’s true in your experience? Or is it just another smear job to make sexwork look bad?

    Thank you for making this ama.