(23f) obviously misandry is not a good thing. No I haven’t been “hurt” by a man to make me feel this way.
As I’ve gotten older it’s gotten worse. I have a hard time going to male doctors for the sole reason that it’s a man. When I think about having children I fear I could have a boy. When I go anywhere and have conversations with men I automatically disregard their input and opinions because of their sex. (Not out loud but subconsciously)
I think what really brought me to this point is the difference in gendered social norms. Women are taught to be cleanly, pretty and orginized. while men are generally taught to be strong, confident and playful. I know this isn’t every single person and everyone is raised differently.
I also think politics have played a small part aswell. A large portion of men don’t know much about women’s anatomy or how periods work. so when I hear that a man has an opinion about those topics, his opinion on it doesn’t matter to me.
I see men as brutes, almost cavemen. I feel like men aren’t at intelligent as women.
I understand that this is false and that one sex isn’t more intelligent than another. I truly would like to change this thought.
Are there specific books I should be reading to change this worldview? Videos? I’m not sure, but I am trying.
Tldr: I’m a misandrist but don’t want to be.
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Maybe try to meet some queer/gnc people who defy most gender stereotypes? just a random thought
It’s good that you want to change your perspective, here are some things you can do:
•Self reflection. Try to reflect on the reasons behind your feelings. Understanding the root causes can help adress it.
•Education. Consider learning about Gender issues, including that of men. Reading books, articles, and watching documentaries about gender equality can help, both sides suffer from gender issues.
•Empathy Building. You can try to have conversations with men and understand their experiences and challenges, try seeing their side and try building empathy.
•Challenge the stereotypes. Consciously fight the stereotypes or negative beliefs you hold against men, you can consider alternative viewpoints.
•Seek Support. Try talking to a therapist or join a Gender equality group.
•practice positivity. Try engaging positively with men if your ready for it.
•community engagement. Getting involved in gender equality communities can help.
I think some empathy would go a long way. From what I can gather you really struggle with the idea that a lot of men seems to be unaware or uncaring about women’s issues, and to be fair to you I get it. But it also seems like you are unaware or uncaring of men’s issues.
Men come in all shapes and sizes. Take some time to try and understand what men face. Try to understand them better. We are all just humans facing are won challenges.
More men should be doing this for women and visa Vera for women with men.