I found this sub over the weekend and noticed how many men seem to be so worked up over the size of their penis.
I don’t want this post to be a brag, I just could not believe how many downtrodden posts about penis size there were. Could things be said behind my back? Absolutely. But did it stop multiple flings from having fun with me? Absolutely not.
I know many men probably have had negative experiences, but I wanted to share this in hopes that men who are scared to put themselves out there because of that, still end up trying.
I promise that you’ll regret forgoing opportunities in your life because of a small chance of a shitty person judging you
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Probably because you aren’t steeping in self-loathing and incel culture.
These guys who are all doomer about being 5’9” or having an average sized dick are repellant because of the doomerism and associated hostility to women, not because of their height, or their hair, or their junk.
Sometimes it’s worth the risk, sometimes not. We will only know if we try… And atleast I have a great personality
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Found George Costanza’s reddit profile 😂
Its mainly men who oddly are obsessed with penises.
My wife told me she wouldn’t be able to pick mine out in a lineup.
I wasted too much time imagining how that would work.
The key difference is that you don’t hate yours for not being an underwear model.
I had some of the best sex ever with men who were 4-5 inches.
Confidence in how you move and use it does more than size itself.
But some men get too in their head about it, or harbor resentment toward women who rejected them and this is affecting them greatly.
Thank you for posting this, OP, hopefully they learn size doesn’t matter as much, and some rejection is healthy.
Costanza?
Some women might use it to insult you when they’re angered, but in reality, it doesn’t inherently impede your ability to get sex or maintain a sex life. Like many people have said in the past; if you don’t care about her sizes and measurements, there’s no reason to assume she cares about yours either
5-6, bald, almost 6″… I’ve always been able to get the job done too
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Once men realize they’re catering more to what men find desirable in other men, but not what women find desirable in men, they’ve taken their first steps out of incel culture.
I don’t think men understand that too big is a thing, too. Women also work off of emotions more than you think. So if your vibe is confident, then that’s huge.
Emphasis on the height. The internet will have you thinking you’ll die alone if you’re not 6’. Literally never an issue in real life, and even in the apps, most of them can sort by height anyways so the girls you’re matching with will be okay with it.
A wise man once said, “Openly admitting to having a little dick is ironically big dick energy”
There isn’t much consistency between women about what constitutes a big penis, anyway. I’m 7″ and I’ve been told I’m large but also heard of a couple girls saying I was small behind my back. It really isn’t something to let people get you worked up over.
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For those saying “he must be rich” this comment is for you. I feel like my ex could have wrote this post and he lives with his parents, in a tiny camper in their backyard. He’s 5’5″ tall, an inch taller than myself, and well over 300lbs. My husband is hands down (and pants down 😉) the best lover I’ve ever had, but if I had to pick a runner up it would be Short Round here with the average weiner size!
Men are way more obsessed with penises than women are
Keep being the confident bad-ass you are my man. It’s definitely going to take you far.
If ya’ didn’t get one today, “Atta-Boy”!
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Men really do obsess over penis size way more than women. They think we’re lying. We’re not. I’ve said it before on here and I’ll say it again. Big is not always better. It hurts. Really. It hurts. Sex is so much more than having a “large” penis. Some guys think a peen is all it takes. It isn’t.
It ain’t the size, it’s how you use it. It’s real, man.
All in the tech as my science back self used to say to my husband. He had good technique, lol.
lol are you my favorite former fwb?
Truly, some of the best sex I’ve had, and he was 5’6”, had receding hairline in his mid-20s, and his dick was on the smaller side of average (idk how many inches because a) it’s not my dick, I didn’t measure it lmao and b) I’m terrible at guessing measurements of things, but I digress).
He had a great personality, we got along really well, and the sex was great. He knew what he was doing and was very invested in my pleasure. That’s what it takes.
Lot of people struggle with admitting to themselves that their personality is lacking. They prefer to blame things they cannot change because changing how we behave is much more difficult than complaining about what we cannot.
Women do not care about penis size. Period.Vaginas aren’t some endless, bottomless pit. There’s a cervix in there and having something repeatedly smashing into it f’ing hurts. Women’s g-spot is about 2-3 inches in, so a 4 inch penis is more than enough.
It’s because a lot of them will believe what other men tell them what women like, instead of actually talking to a woman. Also their personalities are probably terrible because of their self pity
Buddy, I feel you. I’m a bald, chubby, bespectacled man with an, at best, small end of average penis. I have never had a sexual partner who wasn’t interested in a repeat performance. It has literally never been an issue in any coupling at all.
I think the male fixation on physical attributes makes it incredibly difficult to conceive that physicality matters much less to women generally. A decent person who is interesting, funny, confident, etc matters far more than any single physical trait. Dudes would benefit from embracing that truth
My bf’s friend group (late 20’s mostly) has all different heights, body types, and levels of hair, but I can’t speak on what they’re packing cause that’s not my business nor am I curious. Most of them are married or at least are in a serious, loving relationship! A few of them have kids too.
My dating experiences are that size isn’t always a hindrance or an asset, it’s attitude and willingness to put effort into making sure I’m also enjoying myself. Like a big dick but not even touching my clit is terrible compared to a smaller one that eats like his life depends on it and is good at it.
Also personality is so important. Like if you’re angry at women, very insecure, or just weird about dating them women aren’t going to flock to you. Even big dick guys who act like having a big dick is so important can be a turn off just the same as being insecure about being small
4.5 is t small, it’s average (or slightly below) most of the complaint posts i see are about “micropenises” which yours obviously doesn’t qualify for. not that i’m defending incel culture but saying i have average junk and i do well with the ladies isn’t going to make someone with a micro feel better
Some of the most enjoyable sex I’ve had was with men your size. It’s amazing being able to have a guy go super hard and fast and it feels great with zero pain. Women who like their cervix being punched are absolutely in the minority
Same here. Average all around, I hate me but I’ve done fine throughout life. Oddly, I did have a woman once tell me that real men are over 6′ with full heads of hair. This was a description of her ex. Later she asked me why I wasn’t interested in a relationship.
As a woman, I honestly prefer smaller side of average. Fits in more places more comfortably, if you know what I mean. I’ve also found that those men tend to have genuine confidence in who they are as a person, which is hot, and usually have a wider variety of skills to offer and I enjoy that more anyway. Foreplay tends to be more fun with them and they rely on their skill set rather than their dick size. Most men I’ve met that have a larger penis, just tend to rely on their size doing all the work and don’t bother learning about anything else which tends to make sex not very fun and I just feel like a human fleshlight afterwards.
The guy I’m seeing now is about 4.5 as well, and it’s honestly some of the best sex I’ve ever had. His confidence is sexy and the fact I can tell he genuinely likes me back, just adds to it. But I never have left unsatisfied.
I have a strong feeling that a lot of the posts made ranting about small penis size are in fact fetish material for the OP.
I’m a woman and I never understood the fixation with size. Your vagina relaxes and hugs around whatever is in there anyway (this is why tampons don’t fall out?)
Bigger doesn’t really register to me because my vagina just relaxes more
I feel like it creates such an echo chamber that’s hard to witness! People just want to be around other people that make them feel good – all the rest is background noise!
The most attractive man I have ever been with was a good 3 inches shorter than me with a short stubby dick. He sure knew what to do with it though.. god damn.
Dudes be too into their own damn heads we ain’t supposed to be overthinkers… remember when men would just be??? Me either.
I think part of the problem for some men is their expectations.
A public space like a bar has a mix of men and women ranging from 5 to 10 yet all of the men are looking at the same 2 women. While it is not impossible for a person who is a 5 to date a 10, the laws of attraction generally don’t lean that way.
As such many men (often younger men) seemingly black pill themselves because Chads and Stacys tend to pair off with each other. We know from experience that this is not absolute – other factors such as status, money, or personality can affect this but generally speaking the 9s and 10s pair with other 9s and 10s.
The most common response is to label all 9s and 10s as shallow, sluts, high maintenance, etc. This makes them feel better about the fact that most people are just average. At the same time, instead of accepting that most people are just average, those men view dating other average people as “lowering their standards”.
You know. I’m fairly average. 5.5-6 depending on how erect I can get. I’m happily married and am able to get my wife off.
I know I’m good enough. We can always improve and stuff but overall my wife is satisfied (she jokingly said she wouldn’t have married me if I was bad in bed)
I also know my wife has had a decent amount of partners and I know she only really hung out with one guy because he was attractive and had a big dick. I don’t know how I compare but I can reasonably say that I am the smaller sized man. If I dwell on stuff can I overthink and make myself feel inadequate? Oh hell yeah. I don’t let myself but it is a little tiny footnote in my mind.
So even though I’m happy and I know I’m good enough, do I still wish I had a bigger dick? Without a doubt. Shits weird. And I know my wife wishes something was different about her and I wouldn’t change anything about her.
I genuinely applaud how happy you are with yourself. That is not easy
Yeah same here. I was by no means a Casanova packing Ron Jeremy heat but still had some luck back in my day. I think it’s mostly internet stuff. Here, you do run into the occasional “size queens” and I think guys internalize that. Just because a handful of people might express some preferences doesn’t make you inadequate broadly.
Honestly your measurements are completely average! I can understand someone being insecure about having an actual micro penis or being in a very small percentile for height, but the numbers you’re citing are literally most people.
Eh.. 4.5 is actually okay.
I’m on the micro scale and I’ve definitely received comments about it. Some women don’t mind (or put up with it) because I have other qualities to offer and actually use my hands and mouth in bed (and I care about them getting off).
But it’s definitely a disadvantage and I always gotta mentally prepare myself that a woman can just break it off with me because of my size (especially in the early dating stages where anything can turn a woman away).
When I see these posts I wonder if the person ever goes outside and if they do are they wearing blinkers. Because I could go and walk around any high street in the country and see couples who are all shapes and sizes, ages, levels of attractiveness, hell even some people who have body odour or bad breath! It didn’t stop any of them finding relationships so clearly you are not doomed just because you happen to be “unattractive”. As my nan used to say, “there’s a lid for every pot”. If you convince yourself the world is against you and at the same time limit your options to those you consider out of your league, then you are going to be missing out on a lot of opportunities with only yourself to blame.
Most women don’t care as much, especially for relationships. As a man you probably wouldn’t choose a girl based in the size of her breasts or butt…. there is so much more that makes a difference that this becomes just a detail.
Its normal to have insecurities… we all do. Its a problem when it becomes hatred and an obsession – nobody cares but you
Big dicks are way to uncomfortable for me. I love an average or below. Most of the sensative areas are in the first few inches inside the vagina. Big dicks over reach and just get uncomfortable.
You rock that dick.
Anyone who thinks that dick size directly correlates to sexual satisfaction needs to turn off PornHub for a min.
Height, dick size, weight, whatever- the thing itself is seldom ever an issue, it’s the self-fulfilling prophecy of insecurity that has people out here shooting themselves in the foot by making a huge deal out of their own perceived flaws.
Gentlemen, we are before a master of the craft
Some of those people fail to realize that, regardless of the size, if it’s attached to somebody who’s not that great/doesn’t take an interest in their partners pleasure then they’re not going to get the adoration and ego stroke they want.
lol You are 100% correct.
If the global average is 5 no woman’s going to go “UM EXCUSE ME, FEELS LIKE 4.5 THERE MISTER!”
Be a generous lover and make sure you get her off and you’re above like 75% of guys out there right away (or so i’ve heard).
Yeah as others said, we women don’t really care about dick size as much as men do. Or as much as men and porn makes other men believe we do.
Honestly, most of us don’t even need a penis to orgasm. Regardless of the size it could be the worse or best sex, all depends if the man actually knows how to pleasure a woman, penis doesn’t even have to be involved in this. You know what’s a real flex or “big dick energy”? Is actually being so confident in your skills that the size of your dick doesn’t even matter to you or anyone you’re with.
Would be good if more men would realise this, they would not only date more, be happier but also many of us women would maybe stop getting unsolicited dick picks, as if that’s actually attractive to any woman.
Hell yeah dude
I feel like that’s the type of stuff you might worry about in your teens and early twenties. Beyond that and you’ll appear stuck on it…which would probably greatly benefit from therapy.
I’ve had some subpar sex with people with big penises and incredible sex with bellow average penises. Penis size is a minuscule part of PIV sex, it’s also engaging in each others kinks, observing your partner and seeing what they like, them observing you and seeing what you like, communication and being vocal when something feels good. My most recent FWB had probably between 4-5 inch penis, which isn’t small in my opinion, especially as I’m only 5’2, but we were so well matched sexually. His hair was thinning a lot too, which has also never bothered me. Neither are anywhere near the be all or end all of attractiveness.
I think many men assume women are just being nice to spare their feelings. 😅
Good for you
As a woman, its really only men that care to that extent and in that way about penises. The only time I’ve seen women say something, respectfully and compassionately, has been in severe cases with micropenises 😶 as long as its clean, we wont shame you for its size. Same goes for height. We dont give a fuck like that, you dont need to be 6’5”. Sure, I don’t think I would be attracted to a guy my height or shorter (5’) but I would shame a guy for it either. And lots of tall ladies date men shorter than them or their same height. Its men that tend to be ruthless with women and themselves upholding rigid and shallow standards.
I generally agree with the post
but I did have a “friend” in highschool who told me that I would never be able to hold down a woman or that I didn’t have what it took to satisfy one (nothing to do with d size, I think this was purely because I was short?)
it was such a crazy conversation to me. I was just flabbergasted and saying basically “yes I could lmao what???” and she kept assuring me that I couldn’t. based on what? I genuinely don’t know, stopped being particularly friendly with her after this.
it was just me, her, and her best friend(who i went on to date for like a year)
5inch is the average so at 4.5 youre not far off, should be plenty.
You’d be surprised how many guys think that the dudes out there with 9-in cervix destroyers are having more fun than the 5-in precision guided g-spot hitters.
Besides, if your oral game is on point, I bet you’ll be hard pressed to find a woman that won’t enjoy your company.
I think men are waaaaay more critical of small dicks than women are. If you have two working hands and a tongue and your partner gets hers, you’re probably going to perfectly fine!
you haven’t received a negative comment yet… there are some nasty women out here OP be prepared.
I have a good friend that is 5’5″, balding, a bit over weight, and in his own words had a very average cock. He’s been divorced about 2 years now, and had recently gotten back in the game (exwife was a total nut and I’ve seen it first hand). Dude gets laid every time he goes out or matches on tinder/hinge. He’s just a nice guy, who. Is generally interested in people. And is interesting himself. He cooks, cleans, and keeps himself well groomed. He has interesting hobbies and passions. He’s not rich, but he’s stable. He listens and is attentive.
That’s the bar you need to cross with like 90% of women. The other 10% are usually problematic for other reasons..
Me too, though I don’t put myself in a lot of positions to receive any kind of comments.