While absolutely no offence is intended to the trans community with this post, it’s something on my mind that I wanted to discuss. I look like a ‘high maintenance’ girl, I love makeup, hair extensions, eyelashes, nails etc, I’m about 5’0 and very petite except for being a natural 30G.
I meet the conventional beauty standards for women and it’s very obvious in the context and phrasing of why men are saying this (Usually Facebook comments etc) that it is being intended as an insult. I do have a strong jawline for a woman, which is the only possible factor I can think of, but my jaw is still a feminine one.
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There’s an anti trans moral panic going on, and consequentially a lot of people are looking for any small thing they’ve convinced themselves is a way to notice a trans person and attacking anyone with that trait. It could be anything, these sorts of people are wild and very confused.
Because right now, to be called trans is basically trying to “unwoman” you (in the same way in the 80s and 90s, women would be called a lesbian to “unwoman” them) while trying to radicalise you to treat trans as an insult.
I would honestly not think too hard of the “why”, and just treat it as some men being nasty because everyone around them got sick of them too.
They’re assholes and that’s the new hot way to be a piece of shit that they hope hurts you and makes trans women feel threatened. But it’s about being a piece of shit first.
All you have to do is look like a woman to get negged. It’s the go to for all the gullible jerks watching the videos they put out.
They hate you because they ain’t you. Don’t let them bother you, and don’t give them any attention either, because any attention is still attention.
Lots of popular trans women online are Egirls. Young men consume a lot of egirl content, then find out their favorite egirl is trans. They get angry then start to get suspicious of all attractive feminine women. It’s black pill behavior.
It’s a form of negging to get your attention and to get brownie points from other bottom feeder men. I didn’t get called trans but some guy called me ugly, which I found super strange because I’m conventionally attractive. Other people started calling him out on it (I didn’t even engage). He got so bothered that he responded to the same comment saying that he meant it as a joke, he has messaged me and I was cool with it. All a lie.
It’s also typical to go after something that the other person is probably somewhat insecure about. If you’re just a little overweight or have a “unfortunate” fat distribution, people will call you fat. Not because you are, but because it’s a pretty safe bet, that you’re already feeling self conscious about that.
You seemingly put a lot of value into being perceived feminine. So calling you trans is also an insult to your love of the feminine. Not because you don’t look like a woman, but because they know questioning your womanhood will hit you where it hurts. And as we can see, it works. You’re here asking us, why that is, and also seriously think about why they would think that. The answer is easy: they don’t think that, they just want to put you into a situation where you feel like you have to prove something to them, and where you look to them for validation. “What do I have to change, in order for them to not call me trans?”
They want you to be insecure and waste your time on them. They always find something wrong you, so don’t waste energy on them. Block and move on.
It’s transphobia, like homophobia when someone would say it’s gay if a man would dress a certain way back in the 90s. They’re just trying to reach for anything to insult you based on nothing or maybe one feature that they use to bully
Because they’re damn morons who feel threatened by you, but don’t have the intellect or wit to think of any better insult, though it they weren’t so stupid they probably wouldn’t feel threatened by you.
To describe them as men feels generous, they’re clearly neither adult, nor truly human.
Well because being a woman or feminine is already considered to be an insult: “Man up” “Grow a pair” “Don’t be a pussy”.
If you own your femininity, they can’t insult it, so the only way to go is to make you not a woman.
This isn’t simply men insulting you, this is men on social media (you have a public Facebook?)
The platform attracts that kind of engagement because the community of active commenters are more likely to be antisocial conservative brainrot types. Throw in some behaviour altering alogrithims and bots and you have a perfect recipe for aggravated online harassment, themed around the prejudices of our time.
It’s becoming a default misogynistic/transmisogynistic insult to call a woman trans because trans women are being villainized so particularly heavily right now. It’s an attempt to make you feel insecure/criticize your femininity and also trying to get you to passively validate the transphobia.
They are basically trying to make you feel like you’re not performing femininity the way you should be. Same old misogyny repackaged. But it’s a trick too because if you argue you affirm the implication that being a trans woman is bad/trans women are not feminine.
It’s based on nothing about you other than you are a woman. Honestly in the current political context it’s literally fascist rhetoric. Ignore it. I understand it makes you feel bad because it’s clear it’s meant to be an insult so even if you wouldn’t perceive it that way it still sucks. But don’t engage directly with it.