This is not a story about me, this is about a female friend (F19) and her current bf (32M), they’ve been in a situationship and then into a serious relationship over 1 year.
I’ve known this girl for around 3 years and we’re very good friends, we’re inside a group of people where we used to hang out frequently. She is very funny to be with, she’s a healthy blondie, studying engineering, has a great life with a great house and a very stable financial situation, great friends…, and as years passed, she has been with 2 people in a relationship, which were, inside the minimums, nice people with a nice personality and a good life generally speaking, but due to many reasons she just broke up with them (doesn’t mean she was the one that did wrong). Then, without anyone expecting it, she met this guy, someone that I personally know and appreciate how kind and careful he is with the people, but at the same time I see that this guy has so much issues that, not only me, but the rest of the group, sees as something wrong to her influence (in fact, I could actually say I’m the only one out of everyone that actually cares about this guy at all):
He is the definition of a weeb: He has long hair, doesn’t clean himself at all, loves anime and has different sexualised anime girl’s dolls and pillows around his house. In general, he doesn’t take much care about his public appearance.
His room is a fucking mess, dirty and awful to be at.
He still lives with his parents
He smokes cannabis A LOT. I couldn’t believe my eyes when he just finished a cigarette and the next 5 seconds he had another one in his mouth, and this continued for like 15 of them.
She hid her relationship with this guy for a long time, until she told everyone, including her parents. Everyone disagreed with this relationship at all, except some people, which we went to his huge house in a far town (2 or 3 hours away with train) for a sleepover just to be told that he didn’t have any place to sleep. We ended up sleeping in his basement with dust and no bathroom.
Since then everyone has kinda been avoiding this guy at all costs and that has made her stay away from everyone else, because she seems to only prioritise him every time (she has said that if her bf isn’t coming she wasn’t coming either to hang out) even if he doesn’t have a proper life, or the life that she may deserve. She was of course warned countless times of where she was getting.
Since I’m not a psychopath and I consider myself a good friend, and not only me, I want the best for her and her environment, and I’m extremely afraid that she may end up being addicted to cannabis, and being dragged into that kind of life that everyone thinks isn’t gonna make her any well being.
Is there anything I could do as a friend of her, Reddit? Let me know if you guys have any suggestions.
TL;DR my friend is with someone that may not be a good person for her and me and the rest of my friends are very worried.
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