I(29M) have two friends that I’ve known since we were teenagers that I used to be very close with. They both live in the same town 30mins away. Over the last 4/5 years I would only see them 1-3 times a year (birthdays/New years Eve). I would try to make efforts to hang out but it would fall through and I never thought much of it. However in the last year since one of their birthdays in June 2024 I haven’t seen them at all. I’ve tried 4 seperate times to make plans with them since but they ignore my messages, including the other week when I text one of them and he left me on read after asking for the three of us to hangout one night.
One is having an engagement party next month, with their wedding happening the year after, and the second friend is having his wedding in September. I was invited to the September wedding a couple months ago when my friends fiancé reached out to me asking for my address to send the invitation, and I was sent a mass text by the other friend for the engagement party.
When my friends fiancé reached out she told me these two friends see eachother frequently. I mentioned this to my other friend and said he should invite me sometime with no response, he sent the engagement party invitation a month later.
I sat on the engagement invitation for a month until his birthday and told him I would go. I haven’t given a response for the wedding invitation yet but I have until august 1st. I’ve sat on these invitations given my frustration of them ignoring any efforts to make plans.
After my one friend ignored me the other week after I asked to hangout, I’m contemplating not even going to either the engagement party or the wedding. I feel our friendships are basically over at this point and if they don’t want to hangout at all, or can’t communicate why, then I shouldn’t bother.
I’m very torn regarding if I should attend or not. Any advice would be appreciated.
TLDR; I have two childhood friends that invited me to their engagement party and wedding respectively, but will not hang out with me on a normal occasion and ignore any efforts to make plans, so I don’t know if I should even attend either event.