This post is kind of embarrassing to post for me but honestly, honestly, I don’t even care anymore. Im (25)F and I am losing my mind. I’ve been unemployed since December when I lost my job and trying to find another job to support myself has been literal Hell. I’ve tried everything temp agencies, job, fairs, different platforms to apply for jobs, even asking friends to help me, and I still come up empty-handed🥺. I don’t have family that I can ask for help. It’s just me and it’s been like that for a long time. I’m just so tired. I’m tired of waking up and feeling the weight of everything feel like it’s crushing me. I’m tired of going to sleep, but I have not been able to rest for months, financial depression is so real, and it makes me feel miserable. constantly asking myself and beating myself down about if I’m doing enough, and even when I apply to multiple jobs at once the second I’m not applying. I feel like I’m not trying hard enough. It’s so depressing. I’ve been brainstorming ways to make a little extra cash and I don’t drive. I feel so stuck. I’m trying not to feel hopeless and lose that drive. I’ve been having but I feel like I’m slowly fading away because it just feels like I’m running out of time. I want to start showing up for myself. I planned on enrolling and attending driving school, getting my permit, my driving license and then looking into getting a certificate, probably something in the medical field like dental assistant or my OSHA10. I feel like it’s too late for me because nothing is turning out good for me and I think to myself maybe I deserve this. Anyways, I don’t even know what I’m asking. I guess I’m not asking for anything I guess I just wanted an outlet for my frustrations, my sadness, and my disappointment for myself. I have so much to offer but I’m so financially exhausted. I think to myself what’s the point? is every day going to be like this? I feel too embarrassed to talk to my friends about my situation or at least tell them my real feelings because I just feel so pathetic and embarrassed. I guess I’m just looking for words of encouragement.🥺🥺 I’m going through a really tough time in my life right now and I feel so alone. I feel like I failed and I don’t really know how to make things better. Just trying to get up and make my bed and brush my teeth and do my skin care routine and eat breakfast just trying to show up for myself with the little things so I won’t lose my mind but it’s so so hard. Waking up in the middle of the night, just trying not to cry and being crushed by the overwhelming thought that this is my reality now..that feeling… that feeling of dread I feel like I’m just falling into a pit and I keep falling and falling and falling.😢☹️ I thought things would get this bad or at least because consistently bad. I don’t know what to do. I’m so scared. I don’t even know if I have a future.😭😭😭
I’m failing as a human-being
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Im in the same boat
You are not failing as a human being. You are surviving one of the hardest times in your life with no safety net, and that takes more strength than you realize.
You’re not failing, you’re fighting through something really hard. You’re stronger than you think and it’s not too late for you
The fact you are still applying, still showing up in small ways (like brushing your teeth, making your bed) means you have not given up. That’s courage.
It’s not too late for you. 25 is still so young, so many people don’t figure things out until their 30s or 40s.
Getting your license or a certification is a great idea. Those are steps forward, no matter how small. Progress counts even when it’s slow.
Please don’t carry this pain alone. Even if you feel embarrassed, confiding in a friend might surprise you, they may be more supportive than you expect.
Hey, I’m really sorry to hear you’re going through this. The job market is truly a hellscape rn and it’s made even tougher with the world situation. But listen, you’re 25, you’ve got so much ahead of ya. Don’t beat yourself up over things you can’t control. Plus, reaching out here is already a step forward, it’s hard to expose oneself like this. I won’t dish out empty “it’ll get better” promises, but remember, setbacks are not end games. You’re dealing with countless rejections, but it only takes 1 acceptance to flip things around. Hang in there, mate. You’re stronger than you know. ❤️
You’re not failing you’re just exhausted and overwhelmed. Job hunting is brutal, and it doesn’t mean you’re worthless. The fact that you’re still trying, making little routines, and thinking about next steps shows strength.
It’s not too late for you this is just a hard chapter, not the whole story. One step at a time, you’ll get through this.
U r not failing it’s just a stage of your life and you have to move to the next stage after all this is completed. Don’t be sad talk to someone, work on any hobbies, get drunk and party. Don’t just stay at home n feel bad bc everything happens for a reason and u can just control ur emotions. So have fun darling
I know everything feels a bit depressing right now… you’re in a tough spot and it feels never-ending and not being able to drive doesn’t help because it adds to the feeling of being stuck but just take a moment to breathe… you’re 25 and although it might not feel like it, you actually have loads of time to turn things around. The important thing is not to give up… and that piece of advice sounds annoying when all you feel like doing is giving up… but don’t. As hard as it is, you have to keep going and you have to try to stay positive. When you start to think about all the things that feel like a failure in your life, it gets overwhelming and that leads to inaction because everything starts to feel pointless… don’t let yourself get to that point. Find one thing that you could try to change… maybe start with the driving… tackle that. Then if you can change that, it’ll help you to feel more positive and you can tackle something else. It’s also normal to experience this anxiety when life gets hard… you could talk to some-one professional (doctor or therapist) if you’re struggling? Or maybe a recruitment agency could help give you some advice. Do you have friends you could share this burden with? It really helps to talk to people and realise you’re not alone… It’s never too late, and 25 is still really young… life has lots of twists and turns, and it won’t always feel like this… something great could be just around the corner so never, ever give up.
Hey listen, I’m 25 years old too. I completely get you and the way how things going doesn’t look good.
Let’s take some moment to appreciate and be grateful that you really got good courage to keep yourself up with all these challenges you face now. And being able to share it here and asking for help, this shows you really wanna try and over come these and get out of this shits.
Everyone face this mid life crisis in their 20s and it’s pretty normal. And all you gotta have is faith in yourself.
Since I’m not sure what area you are in and what sort of job you are looking, I’m not sure how I can help with that.
But I’m saying, I was there in this position last year and I really get you!
But what I did when I was unemployed, I started looking things in positive ways. I started going out for free events which helped to feel not lonely. When I say free events, events like more of a networking and good minded community. Which you will be easily can get some help to find a good job for you.
And secondly, start utilizing LinkedIn and start watching personal branding videos to start building yourself slowly.
All you need is to have faith in the process. And make sure you have good circle of friends to learn new stuff and who helps you to grow as a person.
You got so much way, and I believe you got a lot of courage to win this life man! Good stuff takes time
So start small actions which pushes you to be who you are dreamt to be.
When I was in this position, I started to push myself to read self help books. One book really helped me
It’s called “power of positive thinking” and this book really gave me different perspectives about life.
Your faith can really change your life and how you see things
I totally relate to you. Life is difficult for many of us middle class people. The job market is brutal right now so you’re not the only one going through that.
Have you tried staring a freelance path? What about tutoring, babysitting, dog sitting to people in your neighborhood? Monetize your skills. Even if it’s not the dream job, you need money right now.
I’d suggest to start an Instagram page, post 10 reels at least about how you help others and maybe give tips. And at the same time choose to do a sponsored ad for your city. That’s the easiest way to draw clients.
About failed plans- all of us have them. Outside factors sometime change our reality and we can’t help it. Try to see what you can do anyway.
It feels super hard getting a job now a days, let alone a job that pays enough to survive. Youre still doing things though and that matters. Work towards your goals of getting a permit and going to school
2025 started out kicking me in the backside as soon as it began. I lost about everything. An apartment, a car, a job, I had to put down a pet of 15 years. I lost a soulmate of 22 years, both my pet and soulmate in February just 17 days apart. I had to move out of state to stay with family in April and it took me a month and a half to get a job here where I’m at. So I finally got a job mid May of this year. Only part time, but it’s better than no job. What I’m learning in all of this is to let go of outcomes that I think I want. Learn detachment, nothing good or bad is permanent. Try as best as you can, then let go. It’s like holding sand in your hand the more you grip it still seeps out. Relax, be grateful for what you do have. Focusing on the negative or positive only attracts more of the same. Hopefully things get better for you soon. 🙂
I have been there before. You will make it through.
I’m not sure if you have any conditions that would prevent it or not, but maybe the military would be a good segway? If you don’t have a degree they’ll pay for classes while you’re in and you’ll have a GI bill and VA loan when you get out. Do 3 or 4 years, see the world, and get a better scope of the professional landscape. There is always hope, and if the military isn’t right, maybe there is another similar avenue to ground yourself.
Baby girl, thank you for being so real here, that takes a lot of courage. What you’re feeling doesn’t make you a failure at all, it just shows how heavy life has been on you lately. Even the fact that you’re still showing up for yourself in little ways like making your bed or doing your skincare is proof of your strength.
Keep your head up. You’re not too late, and this isn’t the end of your story. Stand 10 toes down because you’ve already survived so much. Better days are coming, even if right now you can’t see them yet.
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