I’ve been with my bf for 4 years. I’m 27F he’s 27M.
I’ve loved this man with every fiber of my body. I was sure we were soulmates, or just meant to be together. This is my first real relationship, so I was all in from the start.
He’s put me through A LOT to say the least, and I’ve taken care of him for a long time. But we are still best friends, and I do love him.. I just don’t feel like I’m in love anymore. where I used to see a future with him, I don’t.
it’s crazy because even after 4 years, you still don’t know someone 100%. we went on a trip and I seen another side of him that turned me off. I had a big talk with him telling him how I felt about his actions, and since then he’s been trying really hard to prove himself. buying me flowers, cleaning, running errands, and being overly affectionate, but now I feel smothered. He constantly tells me how in love he is, how he can’t live without me, how I’m the most important thing in his life.
I don’t want to be intimate, I don’t want to kiss or be smothered in affection, when before that’s all I’d want. and it’s hard when his love language is physical touch. it sucks too because now I’m thinking about other people.. just experiences I might be missing out on.
Is this truly falling out of love? my love used to run so deep, now I feel like it’s barely hanging on. I didn’t know I could feel like this, and I feel so guilty. how do you tell someone you don’t feel the same without them resorting to hating themselves?
or is this something that just happens this deep into a relationship? do I just work on it or try to force the feelings to come back, or am I describing something I should be walking away from? I’m just lost and don’t know if leaving is a correct choice. I just don’t want to have regrets, and I don’t want to hurt him, but I’m not really happy right now.
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Take a break from relationship
Let him go, my wife told me recently that she is not in love with me as well. I am also a physical touch guy. It hurts knowing the person uou thought you would spend life with till your dying day. Do it soon so he can find his person.