tl;dr My relationship is getting boring due to a lack of common interests. How can I introduce new ones to my girlfriend?
My (22M) girlfriend (22F) and I have been together for almost 9 months now. Keep in mind, this is my first relationship ever, so I had no real experience with dating.
I met my girlfriend on Instagram. We went to the same high school, and we briefly remembered each other. When we first started talking, we were both really into each other, and we were official just 1.5 months later. As the months go by, though, I’m starting to notice how little we have in common.
We see each other two times a week, not that much since we both live with our parents and I’m busy with school. When we do see each other, we just go out to eat and maybe walk around downtown. We also do get intimate, but even with all that, it’s starting to get stale. I play video games, guitar, and go to the gym. All she really does is work a 9-5 and lie in bed for the rest of the day watching TikTok or binge-watching shows. I try to get her to play video games with me and invite her to work out, but she never accepts it. When we FaceTime, we have nothing to talk about besides what we did that day and work drama. She is also very obsessed and clingy with me since she doesn’t really have friends, so whenever I hang out with my friends or play video games with them, she gets upset that I’m not giving her attention.
While I love and care for her, I can’t help but notice that I’m feeling a bit bored. How do I persuade her to keep the relationship more interesting?
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I would say this sounds a little similar to me and my boyfriend, except I don’t think either one of us is bored. I don’t know if this will be of any help, but why don’t you do more engaging stuff when you see each other aside from just eating and walking? Maybe go play a competitive round of mini golf or something. My boyfriend and I got into it after we weren’t sure what to do for dates anymore. Also, maybe watch something together that will introduce her to your interests. My boyfriend is into golf and we started watching a golf documentary recently, and I’m totally hooked. We also watch shows together a lot, so maybe you can watch some of the shows she’s watching and that will probably give you other stuff to talk about.
Don’t take offense to this, but you guys are part of a generation that isn’t very creative. All you do is play video games and sit on your phones so when the initial spark waned, neither of you has the creative capabilities to come up with ideas to do more intriguing stuff with one another.
Some options would be to take a class together, join a bowling league, or something that forces you guys to do something outside of the house and away from your ‘devices,’ but while together.
However, the ‘boredom’ is commonplace in every relationship after a period of time. For you guys it’s tougher since you don’t know what else to do but play games or play with your phones.