He hasn’t paid the taxes in 3 years. Can’t get a heloc. 3 credit cards blown through and terrible credit score. None if this is in my name. Might be half mine but it’s not. Not really. I can’t do anything but get told I’m not helping. All he does is yell at us.
I don’t know what to do. We have 2 months before it’s gone. I hate him for this. He’s going to lose my children’s home.
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Do you live in the US? If he has been hiding this from you, you can sue.
I normally wouldn’t recommend this, but this is my only idea. Do you have a vehicle? Yendo is a credit card that goes off the value of the vehicle, even if there is a loan. I have their card with open credit now because it’s nice to have the 4400 in an emergency. This might let you start a payment plan with the tax company. Then you’ve gotta handle other things, but you know what those are already.
Leave him and file bankruptcy
It is time to protect yourself and your kids. He is not going to change his finances and it will only get worse.
Talk to a divorce lawyer.
See if you and the kids can move in with a family member or friend.
Find a job.
If you are worried about leaving, contact a DV hotline to come up with a plan to get out safely.
It will be very hard at first. It definitely will. But life will get better when you are through this mess. My mom had to do it and she is much better off now.
If nothing is in your name and you’re not financially responsible for it. Leave him and start fresh, your kids deserve it.
I was in this same situation. I also thought it was impossible to get out of. I found out when they foreclosed on our home (surprise!) that our retirement, savings and our kids’ college savings were all gone. He even canceled life insurance policies.
Spoiler: You can do this. And you should, because I’m on the other side and would do it again in a heartbeat to have the life I have now.
Get a therapist. Take it one day at a time. You’ll be so proud of yourself.
Divorce his ass. ASAP.