There is a long story behind all of this, but I’ll make it short..This person is very import in my life, we do everything together. Everyone, even strangers think we are a couple but we are not, and I gave up on the hope of becoming one.
I know for sure that if I keep hanging out with my best friend I won’t be able to move on, I won’t be able to fall in love with anyone else… Even though I love this person and our friendship endeslly, it’s not good for me. Should I let my best friend go…?
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Yes you should. But you owe it to them to be honest about why. If you ghost them, you are a shitty person.
Tell her how you feel. If she isn’t interested than don’t get mad but to tell her you need to go no contact for a while until you aren’t in love with her and hopefully are dating other women.
That is the only way to keep a friend without destroying your mind
Ooof. Let me tell you a story I’ll sum up quick. Then you decide.
Was into my best friend in high school. Very into her. He had a fling once but she wasn’t feeling it. I didn’t wanna lose her as a friend so we stopped it there. But I always had a thing for year. We grew up. Both dated other people.
Thirteen years went by. We had had a little falling out a couple years prior when I didn’t get along with her fiancé (I was proven right about him in the end) and we had only been speaking again for about a year after they broke up. I was finally in a place where I didn’t think about her that way. Was totally happy just to have her as my friend again. Then SHE told ME she had feelings for me. I thought about it because I didn’t wanna ruin things. But all my friends said I’d always had a thing for her so I should at least try. So we did. It was great. Who wouldn’t want to date their best friend? I knew I wanted to marry her within a couple months. 6 months later she screws around on me. Then ghosts me when I called her on it. It RUINED me. Like severe depression. Dropped 40lbs in 3 months kinda depression. Then I was left with no gf, no best friend, and no self worth because at the time I felt like if my best friend could do that, I must be worth nothing. 5 years later and I’m okay now. And as much as I never want to see her again, I still miss my best friend.
But man, I wish I’d never taken the chance. You never know the real person till you date them. You tell me. Was it worth it for 6 months?
Sorry that was long. I left a lot out trying to shorten it.
Ask them out you donut
Long story short, I was in a similar boat in high school. it might not work out the way you want it to and could potentially ruin your friendship/relationship or make things awkward and uncomfortable for you both. You could tell him and be straightforward about your feelings and how it’s affecting you and that you need space to figure your feelings out or that you may need to end the friendship permanently and discuss boundaries about how that looks for you both.
Honestly, you need to just tell him what’s going on in your head. If he doesn’t feel tye same way then things need to end, because this is going nowhere but circles.
It’s a shitty situation unfortunately.