Lately I’ve realized how much of my stress comes from assuming things are about me. A weird text tone? I think someone’s mad. Someone doesn’t invite me? I spiral.
Logically, I know most people are too busy worrying about themselves — but emotionally, I still go there.
Anyone have tips for breaking out of this mindset?
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Of course it’s hard but it’s always awesome when you find something about yourself you’re not actively happy with, and try and make it better!
Try and stay in your own lane. You do you, and have confidence in your actions. If you’re confident in your own wants and needs you won’t feel like you need to depend on other things/people for confirmation.
Cause that’s all it is in reality, feeling a bit paranoid from time to time is A- super normal, but B – you just feeling less confident about yourself and looking for a bit of reassurance and validity.
just ask. “did i upset you? it’s hard to tell over text.” good people won’t be bothered by it. also work on correcting your thoughts. notice when you’re assuming the worst and reframe it.
Very common – one way to escape – I have come long way from having inferiority complex to ‘I don’t care’; Two main points
We have no control on other’s actions – so just forget about why others did that way and don’t even analyse that. Like Jesus, pity on them for their ignorance or immaturity and laugh about it.
Reaction is your control; you should always chose the reaction in least harmful to you. It could be ignore and move or disconnecting the person – but it has to be least harmful to yourself
I can tell you right now that the older you get the less fucks you have to give.
You can never change the way someone feels and often times thats not going to change regardless of what you do or say. Why waste time on letting a snide comment, a passive remark or a full on outburst get to you? It’s easier said than done, but not really when you have bigger problems to deal with.
I have a wife and 2 children. Little things you mention in your post are very insignificant in comparison to what I deal with on a daily basis. My fucks have turned into flying fucks and flown the fuck away.