TL;DR: We’re both 26. Dated for 3½ months, took things really slow (no kisses, just hand-holding and forehead kisses). Yesterday we cuddled for the first time, I opened up about my feelings, and she said yes to being my first official girlfriend.
Me and this girl have been going out for about 3 and a half months. We’re both 26. We actually met on a dating app. We texted for a day, and I asked her if she wanted to meet and she said yes. From the moment I saw her, I really liked her. We’ve gone out a lot since then, I think we’ve been on around 10 dates so far. Every time we’ve met, we’ve talked nonstop for 3–4 hours. One of the dates was watching pride and prejudice at her place.
Nothing has really happened physically, we haven’t kissed because she’s never been in a relationship and she said she wanted to take it slow. All we’ve done is hold hands and I’ve kissed her forehead. But I really like this girl. I didn’t know where things were going, so yesterday we planned to hang out at her place. I’d asked her beforehand if it was okay if we cuddled, and she said yes.
So yesterday, we were sitting on her couch and I had my left arm over her shoulders, she was resting her head on my chest, and I was resting my chin on her head. It was really comfy. It was the first time I felt so close to her. I started talking about my feelings for her and told her everything. She was really curious and asked me a lot of questions about my feelings for her, and I answered all of them. I asked if she saw something long term moving forward with us and she said yes. Then I finally asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend and she said yes❤️.
I can’t describe the feeling because I’ve never had a girlfriend before. I’ve had short-term flings in the past, but those were purely physical. This is the first time I’m experiencing this kind of dynamic. I like this girl a lot. Yesterday, the whole time, I just cuddled her, kissed her a thousand times on the cheek and forehead, and told her all the things I like about her. It was a little surprising for her because she hadn’t seen this side of me until now. She’s a very shy person and she’s still getting used to it, so I’m giving her a lot of time.
She’s really inexperienced too cause this is like her first real time going out with someone. There was one point yesterday where I started to fall asleep while holding her. I fell asleep for about five minutes, and when I woke up, I stayed still because I thought she was asleep too. But it turned out she wasn’t asleep and she just stayed still because she thought I was sleeping and didn’t wanna disturb me, which was really cute. In that moment, everything just stopped and that’s all I wanted, just to have her in my arms. We were so relaxed, just napping together. It was perfect.
After that, we had pizza. I wanted to share all this because it was so beautiful. I think I got butterflies in my stomach for the first time in my life. This girl makes me feel like a teenager again, which I love because I had to grow up really fast in my teens due to traumatic stuff. I always wanted someone to make me feel that softness of youth again, to explore and experience things without all the maturity. She makes me feel shy, makes me feel okay when I’m awkward, genuinely listens to me, answers my stupid questions, and never makes me feel like I’m too much.
So yeah that’s my story. She’s my first girlfriend, and I want to make her the happiest person in the world because I know she already makes me the happiest person in the world. Any advice?
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Just keep doing what you’re doing, my guy. Literally, that’s all you have to do. Don’t overthink it. Don’t worry about what other people are doing.
Keep going but work up the courage and give her a peck kiss on her lips. Just spoil her and give her anything she wants. You got me wanting pizzas now.