For context, this is my first serious relationship. My (26 F) boyfriend (26 M) see each other every weekend. It has become a regular thing in our lives since it works out best with our schedules. During the week, we talk and watch a movie/show on the phone every night before bed. I also like to call him on my lunch breaks just so I feel like I’m not eating alone. Our communication is regular and healthy (we’ve had previous discussions about boundaries and how we prioritize each other along with our friendships).
This week, my bf is on vacation, from this past Saturday to this upcoming Saturday, so a week exactly. I saw him this past weekend before he left and he said we will see each other this weekend, so it’s just like any other week in our lives. We just don’t talk every day because he’s with friends he doesn’t see often.
I miss talking to him every night and it feels different than any other normal week, but I am more happy than sad because he’s with friends. Does this make me codependent? I’d like to think that this isn’t what codependency looks like because that is a huge fear I have, especially since this is my first relationship. Plus, my friends make me feel guilty and weird for reacting like this, so I really don’t want to develop codependency.
Any outside opinions or advice is welcome and I am happy to give more details if needed.
TL;DR I’m scared of becoming too needy and annoying in my first relationship.
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No, it doesn’t sound like you’re codependent. It is perfectly normal to miss someone while they’re gone, and perfectly healthy to hope they’re having a good time.
You can google what codependency is and make sure that your relationship isn’t falling into those things.