I’m not as OK as everyone thinks. I am actually TERRIFIED

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I’m (40F) so scared. My father(76m), my hero, fell in The shower Sunday morning. Was rushed to the ER by my mom (69f). His calcium was extremely high, his knee swollen 3x’s it’s normal size. Mom pushed for an MRI. After a few hours, the results were back and it was NOT what we were expecting. Lesions all over his pelvis and hips. Knee is fine…. just arthritis.

He was admitted for 3 days then transferred to OSU James Cancer Hospital. Bone cancer…. Also gum cancer(he has 2 holes in his gums which we didn’t know bc he said nothing to us).

I’m trying to stay strong and positive for him, mom, both my son(22m) and daughter (18f). But as soon as I get home from visiting, I break down. My intrusive thoughts want to take over. I have no one to talk to, to vent to, no one to hold me while I cry. Fiance is in Tennessee on a bass fishing tournament trip. All my friends throughout life, kinda moved far away and we stop speaking years ago. I also don’t want to be a burden to anyone. Nor do I want anyone to feel sorry for me. So I keep everything inside. I hesitate to even write and post on here.

Right now we are waiting for biopsies to be done to have a plan started. He’s in so much pain and miserable. I feel so bad for my dad. I wish I could take it all away from him. I’m not ready to lose him….. 😪🙏😭
I’m so sorry for everyone that has lost a loved one or is going through cancer. I love you and stay strong.
Thanks for letting me vent some. Thank you so much if you read this all❤️

TL;DR Dad’s diagnoses is scaring me. No one to talk to.