i don’t know when it started but at some point i became “that guy” — the one everyone comes to with their shit
“you’re so grounded,” “you always listen,” “i feel safe with you” cool. great. now what? now i carry your breakdowns and go cry in the shower?
i’m tired of being someone’s emotional safety net while no one even asks if i’m okay i’m not cold. i’m just out of space.
i wrote something about it. not like a blog or whatever. more like me just trying to get it out of my system.
if you wanna read, i can share.
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As someone who is also That Guy, I feel you. Never the one to vent, always vented to. Never feeling like you can spill stuff to others because against your will you’re now hyperaware of all the shit they’re going through and now prefer to keep things to yourself.
I’ve got no advice, just a handshake.
I wanna read some tea…
Tell me the first thing that comes to your head
So set boundaries. You’re THAT guy because you let yourself be.
You say you don’t want to be but I doubt that’s the full truth. Perhaps part of you doesn’t but another part definitely does and enjoys the sense of ownership and more that comes with it.
If you really want it to end then the answer is quite simple, boundaries.
Aww
I’m sorry 😔
Men like you are the real hidden gems
I want one LOL 🤣
You can talk to me all day about your problems
I prefer to listen anyway
I have nothing better to do 😂
Take care of you first it’s not selfish
It’s not wrong
You’re not a terrible human being
If anything it will make you a better one
You can’t give what you don’t have
Fill your cup KING 👑
And if you have those types of people in your life I would suggest you distance yourself
Because they don’t care about you anyway especially if they’re not reciprocating your kindness
And it’s okay to cry 😭. Don’t be ashamed
🤗 😘 💜