Basically my mother was taking care of my cat (her name is lady) while I was in the middle of a move, I decided I can’t keep her at my new place before we get everyone comfortable as I moved in with my gf who already has 2 cats, 1 dog, and took in my elderly cat. Well about 3 months in my mother put lady on the next door app without telling me as well let her run free outside to which she then ended up pregnant. Somehow my mom didn’t realize Lady was pregnant so she ended up giving birth a day into this elderly women owning her therefore I got a call from my mom telling me she adopted lady out and she was sorry but I need to get her due to the elderly women not wanting to take care of lady as well as her 3 kittens.
The next day I go to this women’s apartment to get lady as well as her kittens and as soon as my cat heard my voice and seen me she ran right up to me and screamed her head off, I mean straight up after birthing/feeding her newborns and ignored them to get to me and show me her babies. I had a small conversation with the women and told her I have to take all the cats until they are at-least 8 weeks old and I’ll return lady and adopt out her kittens. It’s now been 3 weeks and everyone in our home has gotten attached to her. My girlfriend loves lady, our daughter loves lady, as well as all the cats and the dog in the house after finally letting her out the bedroom for the first time on accident during a feeding session.
For the first time I got Lady back in the 3 weeks this elderly woman who’s only had her for a day and requested me to take them has called 5 times while I’m at work, then on the same number pretending to be some guy named Jerry claiming to be my moms “new man” texted me asking when I can give lady back. The thing is…. We don’t want too, lady was given away without my knowledge or permission, I know I told her I’ll give lady back but she didn’t even pay for her, her cat food, or litter. She can’t drive after talking to my mom more about the situation, everything is pointing to us keeping her in the family. I just feel guilty about the whole situation and have a feeling the elderly woman is very lonely…. I don’t know what to say to her, especially after the weird text pretending to be a new man in my mom’s life to get into about the kittens and lady.
Should I just ghost this woman and keep my cat or should I just be honest? I don’t know what I’d even say…
Edit: I already have people willing to take the kittens once of age… can’t give her one. Also she can’t drive and unfortunately is handicapped with no help. I don’t think she could afford or take care of a cat. She’s in her late 80s
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Dude, tbh, that’s ur cat. Your mom had no right to give her away without your OK. You weren’t ready then, but she’s a part of your fam now. It’s unfair to Lady to shuffle her around. Straight up, tell that lady respectfully that she’s officially off the market. If she’s lonely, maybe point her towards a shelter for a cat that needs a home. As for “Jerry” – lol, that’s just whack. Trust your gut on this one.
Her loneliness is not your burden. If she’s lonely, there are other, healthier ways for her to connect she doesn’t need to do it through someone else’s pet.
If she wants a cat, why not offer her a kitten? She might be able to bond and support the kitten. It’s not that she had a bond with your cat, but who knows if she takes a kitten you might be able to keep in touch and get updates on the kitten. And she might like the human connection. If she doesn’t, that is okay too.
Give her a couple of the kittens?
Lady is your cat that was given away without your permission. No need to give her back let alone give her back to somebody unable to care for her. The old lady may be lonely, but your mom had no right to just give away your cat, so the solution is simple; your mom is now the old lady’s friend.
Have your mom go live with the lady so she wont be lonely, THAT was a crappy thing to do, I wouldn’t trust her anymore.
FFS. Spay your cat.