If you saw my posts before you’ll already know my situation it’s a longer story I still have posts up if you want to see . I’ve been married for 8 years to a pretty violent man both physically(not like bad just stuff randomly thrown at me) and verbally but I didn’t think he’ll actually be capable of actually really hurting me . He’s been saying some very concerning stuff lately like when I tell him I want a divorce when he’s being abusive that I won’t leave this house breathing or “don’t let me do something because I’m capable of anything”
I’m also 23 weeks pregnant and not feeling well I feel like I’m going through hell ?
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Go to a pre natal alone and ask for help please
You should not post here, you should plan your escape and you also should go to the police file a report because he threatened to kill you. The fact that it escalates from stuff being thrown at you (already unforgivable) to death threats is very concerning. Usually it continues to escalate until he beats or kills you.
When you move out, make sure to have a friend or the police here so he can’t be violent. It should be far easier to do that before the child is born rather than after.
You know what violence is ? It’s behaviour. It’s like a car that accelerates. If he chooses to swear or belittle … he entered the path of violence abnormal behaviours. That leads to shouting. That leads to throwing spitting pushing grabbing squeezing then punching kicking then more violence and then they snap
He chose to allow himself to harm you. You NEED TO Disappear FROM HIS LIFE and run away without a trace
Be careful! I’d reach out to trusted friends for help and get out ASAP.
I am sorry, I haven’t seen your previous posts except one where your child is hitting others? but with what you posted, there’s enough there for me to stop waiting for that excuse to leave. You are 32 and know better than it will get better. Stop vocalising your plans to him about divorce, and start getting your things in order. Contact your women’s refuge and see what their advice is. Reading about your child already makes me think that he has a problem due to his home environment. Now you are going to bring another helpless child into this environment. If your husband frightens you that is enough of a reason to leave. Get help.
Find a number for Women’s Aid that’s close to you. If you can’t talk to them, schedule a pregnancy checkup and talk to the midwife/doctor/nurse about the threats. Pregnancy is a common time for dv to start or escalate so they should be able to point you to where you can get help. Have you any trusted friends nearby who could help you leave him? Because you need to leave him.
There are so many stories of women who wholeheartedly believe their abusive partner won’t ever really hurt them. And usually the worst of it is during or just after pregnancy and while trying to leave.
Stop talking to him about ending things.
Come up with a safety plan, find people who will help you.
Research – look into Lundy why does he do that and should I stay or should I go?
You can do this, you’re stronger than you think. Life will be so much better on the other side.
He will kill you if you stay. You have no other option but to leave.. or defend yourself…if you catch my drift.
If you’re active duty military, you have options through your base/post. Use your chain of command to find out what your options are. Make an appointment to talk with the chaplain they can help you also. If your husband is also active duty, he just handed his ass to them.
When is your next check up for pregnancy?
Go to that appointment, tell that that you’re scared for your safety. Your husband has made threats on your life.
So why are you still there?
These men kill. Sorry to be so direct. The violence will only continue to escalate.
Contact the domestic abuse hotline. Do it ASAP! You can call, chat online or even text, I think. They will help you! GET OUT ASAP!