I’m about 9 weeks along and the only people who really know are my husband, my mother and a few of my friends. My husband yesterday asked when I think I’d want him to tell his parents. We had this discussion earlier when I first got pregnant and I told him that I’d want to tell most people after reaching second trimester (because there’s less risk at that point).
For context, my husband is currently in tech school and out of state (no, I didn’t cheat on him, I got pregnant after going to visit him back a few months ago). My husband came out to visit last weekish for a funeral and is back this week because he was originally supposed to be here for a surgery I had scheduled—which has now been cancelled because we found out I’m pregnant.
His parents are still under the impression that I’m getting surgery, according to my husband. However, my husband asked today if I might change my mind about telling them sooner because he doesn’t know when he’ll be able to come out next and tell them in person. I told him I’d think about it but I’m hesitant. I’m terrified of them knowing and godforbid, I lose the baby—my MIL will create rumors regardless but I wouldn’t need that stress during that time. Plus, I don’t know if I’m superstitious, I just don’t feel good about telling them before second trimester.
It doesn’t help that my MIL spent years telling me to never get pregnant, as I’d just be “taking her baby boy away from her”. There’s also the fact that FIL called me yesterday saying, “I hope your surgery goes well, MIL wanted to call you and wish you luck but you know, you blocked her and whatnot”
I just don’t feel good about anything right now. I know they’re not going to react well, and I just have no idea what to do.
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