My (19M) girlfriend (19F) has been having some weird ‘symptoms’ lately (hungrier than usual, fatigue, tender chest). We had sex back in June, but she’s had an IUD in for the past year-ish. I’ve mentioned to her that I think she might be pregnant but she gets weirdly angry and defensive with me when I mention it. She tells me that ‘she knows her own body best’ which I understand but nevertheless the symptoms concern me. Either way, she’s getting these symptoms checked out three days from now but the anxiety is eating away at me.
I’m pretty sure my girlfriend is pregnant but she refuses to believe me
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she can refuse to believe anyone if she wants, but she cant refuse to believe the results from a test/check-up. i dont think you want to win this one dude because if she is pregnant, and you hit her with, “i told you so”, i see pain in your future
Ask her to do a preg test, for your own peace of mind.
Brace for lifelong nagging should it test negative.
This doesn’t always mean pregnancy though. The IUD is like 99% effective. I have the implant and I get these symptoms fairly often just from hormonal changes. She’s probably thinking the same way – that it’s normal for her and she’s using an effective contraception.
However, if my boyfriend was worried, I wouldn’t have any issue with doing a pregnancy test for his peace of mind, so I would say to maybe get the test for her and ask her gently if she wouldn’t mind doing it just for your peace of mind. If she doesn’t, that’s a little odd.
Those could also be signs of PMS, or a hormonal imbalance.
We can get this way when ovulating. When the iud moves, it can lead to pregnancy, but she’ll probably also feel when it moves.
To be pregnant, she needs to ovulate and the iuds block eggs from coming down. Blocks sperm from entering to the ovaries. Some stop the sperm when it reaches that spot. If it moves she would be cramping. Feeling morning sickness is usually a first sign. (Can happen in other hours of the day, or food makes her sick)
Those symptomes can have many causes and I had none of those during my actual pregnancies. I feel like there is maybe something else going on, if you are that freaked out over something that could’ve already been resolved with a simple test at home?
She’s NOT pregnant. 🤦
She’s probably just as scared as you are, give her a minute to process it on her own.
Just buy her a pregnancy test like really, it’s not a stressful thing but you pressuring her about it doesn’t make her comfortable. She can take the test on her own time
I have an IUD and occasionally have similar symptoms. It happens.
The IUD is like 99% effective.
IUDs don’t completely suppress ovulation like hbcp do. So she’ll still have the symptoms of a cycle.
If you’re nervous about this stuff, wear a condom and quit stressing her.
It’s okay to be concerned. But if she’s seeing a doctor in 3 days anyway you just have to manage your anxiety for a bit. That’s your only issue right now.
Those symptoms are pretty non specific and if she has an IUD it’s pretty uncommon for it to be pregnancy, but the doc will check and you’ll know for sure too.