I’m so attracted to her it’s unreal. She’s one of the most authentic and incredible people I’ve ever met. She’s also gorgeous. Lightyears out of my league on a physical level.
I love making her laugh because she can’t hear herself laugh so she doesn’t have any restraint and it’s endearing. I really want to ask her out but I’m really nervous. I’ve never been great at asking women out. Plus we work together and I don’t want to make things awkward or get reported to HR worst case scenario. I think about it every day and even practiced how to do it in sign language but I’m afraid that’s too corny and dumb. I know she’s single but I don’t know if she has those types of feelings towards me or finds me attractive in that way.
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Learn how to ask it in sign language. That would be baller
Learn sign language and ask her out in that
If I were you I’d be learning ASL like my life depended on it.
She wouldn’t hear you anyway
Oh my god. This is so wholesome! Please ask her out. Ask her out in sign language – that would be incredible. The worst case scenario is she will say no. You don’t have to let it ruin the friendship you have! You’re both adults.
Please keep us updated if you do pluck up the courage to ask her ❤️ I’m rooting for you!!
with your shyness and nervousness about different things id say to take it slow and easy at first like ask for a simple get together instead of a straight up ‘date’ date..like a quick coffee or lunch just to break the ‘we only talk at work’ barrier..then go from there.
learn how to say coffee and lunch in sign language that would be cool to ask like that.
If you are worries about making it awkward, try inviting to a social event. Concert(she can still feel the music), local activity you already plan to be at without her(ex: sand volleyball club). If she says yes, chance to hang outside of work. If not, best not push it and make it too awkward.
People meet and date at work all the time. If you have a good (enough) read on the chemistry between you two you can ask her out and not fear an HR case. It’s okay for people to date at work for the most part, as long as someone isn’t a direct report of the other or has influence on the work of the other but even then I’ve heard of situations where they self-report to HR to inform them that they’re dating and one of them needs to transfer. (The people in my example are married now!)
Anyway, if you think the outcome is either a “yes” or a polite decline and you won’t bug her past the decline then I think you are safe to proceed. Also, don’t worry about this idea of “leagues” or feeling nervous or inexperienced in asking someone out. Nervousness is usually correlated with how much you care about the outcome and a little bit of nerves can be endearing. Speaking from experience here, my now husband was incredibly nervous and inexperienced in the early days of our dating and now we look back fondly on how sweet that all was. I wish you the best of luck, please keep us posted, this is the kind of internet I’d much rather get invested in than news of the world 😂
Ask her if she wants to grab coffee or dessert after work…ASL.
Definitely ask her out in ASL, but keep it casual. Just say you’d like to take her out for dinner and ask if she’d be interested. If she says yes, great. If she says no, just brush it off and treat her the way you always have.
And update us!
Learn sign please! Not only would she love it, it’s the proper way to communicate with her!
Class. Go for it! Good luck!!
Of course send an update!
Ask her out for coffee or dinner. Impress her by learning sign language. It could get serious!
Go watch “A Silent Voice”
Ask her to teach you sign language.
Definitely ask her in ASL. It’s not corny, it’s adorable, and it shows you care. But definitely do not (I repeat do NOT) ask her to either 1) “Go out with you,” or 2) “Go on a date with you.”
If you value your job and your friendship, you need to phrase things differently.
To put it bluntly, you need to prepare for the worst. Because if things don’t go the way you hope, a direct romantic ask could make your future interactions with her awkward at best and uncomfortable at worst. And you don’t want that.
So instead, do this one little trick: ask her in the SAME EXACT WAY you would ask a new platonic friend to hang out. Pretend she’s just one of your male friends, and ask her exactly how you’d ask them. This way if she IS interested in more, she’ll give you signs or say yes in a way that invites more. But if she’s not, you’ve left enough room for plausible deniability, and things don’t have to get weird.
Dating co workers is far too high risk imo
I know all the other comments are caught up on her being deaf but tbh keep it professional
You have a fetish. Not an attraction to her as a person. This is about lust.
Ask her. I once dated a coworker, we are married now
Similar but not the same AT ALL. My deaf co-worker was my favorite because we couldn’t communicate. He’s way, I’m a straight female, so no attraction…. He always made it a point to wave and make some sort of contact with me… he once told me his birthday was the next day, bought him a slice of cake and learned how to sign happy birthday, he was sooooo touched….