I’m really over here thinking I have no friends at all. The friends I had in the past were toxic so I ended things with them. Is it normal to have no friends in your 30s and still single?
I’m really over here thinking I have no friends at all. The friends I had in the past were toxic so I ended things with them. Is it normal to have no friends in your 30s and still single?
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I think it’s becoming more and more common and it makes me really sad/worried for society. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, OP! It can be so jarring to lose your old friends over time, even if they were toxic. I hope you’re able to put yourself out there and male some amazing new friends soon. IME, it’s a lot harder compared to your twenties but still doable if you’re able to find a consistent form of socialising. Wishing you luck, my dear 💗
Yes it’s normal. Kudos to you for dropping toxic people. You will find your people, and good people, you already know how to spot toxicity. Work on improving yourself and keep the good people around.
Start a hobby! Take walks, say hello to people. Dont worry about making best friends right now, but we all need social interaction. Dont let yourself completely isolate. You’d be surprised how many other people are lonely too and are looking for someone to talk to
Yep, it’s quite common. People outgrow each other or realize this person is toxic. I find it’s harder to make friends because people are not self aware and they are not proactive.
I don’t believe in one person being a planner in a group of 6 people. That’s ridiculous to me. No one else can think and plan something fun to do? No one else can host a dinner? No one reaches out, but will respond?
It’s normal to outgrow friends, end friendships, and have your friend group change overtime. I don’t think it’s really normal to have no friends at all though. Most people continue to make new friends throughout life through shared hobbies/interests, other people, etc.
This has happened to a lot of people. Ideally you will luck out and meet good people soon. However, when you have had a whole friend group turn out to be harmful and toxic, it can impact your ability to trust other people, which in and of itself can be a challenge to meeting people, or even having the drive to put yourself out there. Weirdly, meeting genuinely good people after a betrayal is very important and helpful in terms of healing and being able to move on from the trauma of a toxic ex friend group.
When I had a falling out with my friend group a number of years ago and was struggling with figuring out how to make friends I decided to start with my pre-vetted list of semi-friends on Facebook. Some were people I knew in highschool, some were old coworkers, etc. I started reaching out to people I had gotten along with in the past and just asking to go out for a coffee or whatever. I think a lot of people are in the same boat and jump at the chance to re-engage with an old friend who reaches out.
Now I’m made several good friends out of those old acquaintances. And I have a group of old coworkers (we literally worked together 15 years ago!) who I meet with once a month for lunch. We’re spread across a 3 hour span in location so we pick someone else’s town each time. We’ve been doing it every month for two years now 🙂
Looking into hobbies and local group meetings for the hobby you’re interested in is a great way to make friends. A friend of mine actually created his own Instagram and discord group around his interests and ended up making a ton of new friends and finding his girlfriend.