Im 27 year old man. Im a virgin. I’ve never had a girlfriend. It’s because I am a religious man and I come from a religious family. So we save ourselves for marriage.
A lot of bad things have been happening to me since I was 17 years old.
I was also unemployed for a long time. But now I have a decent job and I earn decent money. Not much though. My parents are looking for a girl for me. It will be an arranged marriage.
But I’m scared of getting married. Im scared of getting my heart broken. Im getting thoughts like what if my wife cheats on me or leave me for someone else. I will not be able to handle it.
Lots of bad stuff have happened to me and I’m ready to deal with them. But getting my heart broken, I can’t deal with this. This will be too much for me.
Im a religious man but I don’t trust God anymore.
Idk what to do. Im scared of getting married.
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Dude, I totally get where you’re coming from, no judgment here. Marriage can seem like a massive, terrifying leap, esp when you’ve had your share of bad luck. But lemme drop a hot take here: Trust isn’t found, its built. You gotta understand that paranoia ain’t good for any relationship, arranged or otherwise. It’s normal to feel fear, but let your experiences strenghten, not cripple ya. And fyi, your worth ain’t measured by your SO stickin’ around or not. Keep faith in yourself, bro. That’s most important. Good luck👊🍀.
Well u are saying you have never had a girlfriend so you have never experienced heart breaking.
Then Why are u scared of? Try to know the girl before you even make the decision cuz marriage isn’t just a day it’s a lifetime thing so
Stop overthinking and Get married
You have to decide first: do you believe in anything or not?