I’m so tired
I’m 36F and am so incredibly exhausted. In your experience, do people change or heal? I’m losing hope here. My husband 38M has suffered from MDD for his whole life and 6 years we’ve been married he has barely had the will to do anything. And he is so darn moody and never happy. My 5 year old is starting to ask questions. At what point does the care giving role need to end and you walk away …
I feel like I’ve carried the entire relationship and my needs and opinions are always dismissed. His pain is more important than mine, his job, his trauma, his wants, his needs.
I’ve excused all of these things as symptoms of depression but now I’m thinking they might just be his personality. I don’t believe in giving up on a marriage because it’s hard or because someone is mentally unwell. But man, it’s so hard.
Tldr: Mental illness sucks for all parties involved. How do you know when to walk away? Do I continue to give up my happiness so that I’m not giving up on someone in need of support?