Everybody’s a cheater. No one has basic respect. The bare minimum is too much. Guys in relationships/marriages openly, proudly, saying they’d leave their girlfriends for some random girl in a heartbeat. I’m just sick of it all. How hard is it to actually like and want to be with the person you claim to love?
I really try so hard to be a good person. I try to maintain my character and be consistent with everyone I meet. I don’t do things that question my integrity or could be suspicious. I’m tired of feeling like these “high standards” of just not being a complete piece of shit are so unachievable that people would rather act like it’s normal for your boyfriend to say how bad he wants to fuck another girl, but he would never act on it so it’s fine (until he does act on it). When did we decide that it’s better to not respect your partner and not act like you’re in a relationship even though you are? When did we decide that “I love you” is somehow a cure for disrespect behind someone’s back and you can do whatever the hell you want with anyone as long as you come back at the end of the night?
I just want to have a secure relationship with someone who honors and loves me. Someone who I know will never be ashamed of me. I want to be someone’s type, someone’s dream girl, not just the person they settle for because it was the first “yes” they got. I feel like it’s not too much to ask for, but I’m frustrated beyond belief at this point because everyone makes it out to be.
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You aren’t alone.
I am a dude, just like the tin says, but I too wonder why people claim to love people they don’t even like. Why they treat fidelity, regardless of if the relationship is open, closed or polyamorous, as a joke to be made.
I’ve grown to realize that it is because the people who do that don’t value themselves.
It’s for the same reason why porn is so prevalent. We are all far more vain than we pretend we aren’t. Looks matter, and though we may say we don’t care, the truth inches out as time passes.
Like, I’m with you, OP. It’s wild how people act like they’re doing us a favor by deigning to be in a relationship with us, and then they wonder why we get tired of the whole charade. We need to stop treating love like some twisted game where everyone’s just trying to one-up each other
Welcome to modernity where traditional values and life styles have been set on fire. Enjoy your stay!
Just kidding, sorry you’re going through this. Hope you find your person. But stay strong, be picky and make sure your values align very early on.
You are not alone… yesterday I gave up on a guy that’s 40 because he can’t communicate, he won’t ask IMPORTANT questions but bring up
The SLIGHT hint of sex and he’s all over that… the worst is that he’s not even my type… but was willing to get to know him because he seemed (emphasis on seemed) matuee
>> I just want to have a secure relationship with someone who honors and loves me. Someone who I know will never be ashamed of me. I want to be someone’s type, someone’s dream girl, not just the person they settle for because it was the first “yes” they got. I feel like it’s not too much to ask for, but I’m frustrated beyond belief at this point because everyone makes it out to be.
UGH exactly 😭😭😭 it’s like…I know I didn’t waste my love for my ex but I chose her every single day and treated her like a queen. But she hardly fought for me when she wanted to break up. Sometimes I even feel like she was embarrassed with me. And I just feel like I’ve spent so much love on her that now I’m drained of it. It sucks 🙁 and I still miss her and I feel like an idiot for being in love and trying with her
Meh.
You hang around the wrong people.
It takes time but the people you surround yourself with reflect the kind of person you, a) are already or, b) want to be.