i’m so tired of the “but it made you stronger” narrative.
like… no it didn’t.
some of the stuff i went through just made me anxious, emotionally distant, paranoid, and mentally exhausted. and now i’m supposed to be grateful for it?
not everything teaches you a lesson.
not every painful thing is a plot twist.
sometimes life just f***s you up for no reason.
i get it — people love to romanticise struggle and turn every breakdown into character development.
but honestly?
some of us didn’t come out stronger. we just came out tired.
if you’ve ever felt like that too… i wrote this check comments⬇️
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Some struggle is good. Too much or all the time can be oppressive
It all builds character, just some builds bad character. We do in deed live and learn. be blessed to make it through another day and move to the next chapter !
I agree with you, and this whole narrative that you just have to find some magic ingredient inside, or learn some lesson, yada yada yada, is just a story people tell.
Sometimes it’s too much. It’s okay to be broken. It’s not your fault. You aren’t deficient because you’re traumatized or burnt out or damaged or overstressed.
I feel you.
you nailed it—some shit doesn’t build you
it breaks you
and then expects you to clap for the rubble like it’s growth
not everything’s a phoenix moment
sometimes it’s just ashes and silence and pretending you’re fine because everyone keeps saying “you’re so strong”
nah
you’re not stronger
you’re armored
and that’s not the same thing
not every wound makes you wise
some just scar over and change the way you flinch when the world gets too loud
so if you’re tired instead of transformed?
you’re not alone
you’re just honest