So I am a 36 year old man and I’m still a virgin and never had a girlfriend before.I used dating coaches,I approached over 100 women in my life,and I even tried dating apps for over 10 years,yet to no avail.this used to really upset me and it still does but not nearly as much as it used to.i don’t have any friends either at the moment but I find that I do like my hobbies like reading,biking,and working out from time to time depending on my mood.I guess you could say that I’m ok with having time to myself and what not.it does hurt that no girl has ever really liked me and that I missed out on a basic human experience,but I guess I also have things to be grateful for as well.anyways if you read this far thank you and I hope you have a good day.
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you dodged 100 bullets trust me
I’m 35 in the same boat I see it this way. Its better to be happy on your own then miserable in a relationship. I hang out with friends and have hobbies that keep my mind off being alone for the most part. If I meet someone then I do if not sh!t happens.
What gets me here is that you used multiple dating coaches?? Feels like that’s where you went wrong here, the amount of dating coaches one should use is zero
Man to man, ima tell you a couple of three things:
Lower your expectations. Not in companionship but any preconceived notions of looks / physical appearances or even in what you expect in terms of relationship, meeting, interests, family background, economic status, communication methodsetc. Vibes is what matters.
Go get a makeover. Hair, clothes whatever you can afford. Not necessarily better but different. Go to the gym more regular. Work out like you mean it, not to look up girls but to do better for yourself.
Look up running. Long distance running. Nothing like the endorphins released from a hard / long running session.
Start greeting people as you pass them. Open doors, acknowledge them. Doesn’t matter if they ignore or move on. There’s always the next.
Make small talk with most anybody. Old / young / man / woman / they / them etc. Think happy, calm n relaxed and then be happy, calm and relaxed.
Don’t latch on though. Keep it short, light and sweet and then move on with a smile and a wave.
Don’t judge and don’t avoid anyone. In fact, make it a point to do it with people who may make you uncomfortable or anxious. And don’t quit. Keep at it.
You see where I’m getting at ? The problem isn’t you, it’s you.
Meaning, you’re likely physically all fine and emotionally there but maybe you lack the social skills, EQ and temperament to show the world you’re available.
Get of your own way and let the world come to you.
A lot of us millennial males are choosing to be single because women in our dating pools are just so nuts.
you didn’t get amy dates in dating apps? why do you think is that?.
I would say it is harder in apps than in real life, just because the amount of candidates girl have. but I am a regular guy and got like 6 dates in 3 months… so if I can do it.. everyone can.
what coaches said it was the issue?
Hit the gym and stop touching yourself completely and watch shit change.