I’m still with my husband of less than a year. I’m a young women who just turn 20. I am married to a 26 yr old military man. I lost my job right after we got married. I’ve been a housekeeper (somewhat of one anyway) for almost 3-4 months. He’s my only income and without him I’d barely survive. I know he has porn addiction but he also has a thing for too young of women. The girl he cheated on me with (this was an online relationship nothing physical) was 16. I’ve looked past his infidently because I’m unemployed and I married him to get out of a toxic family environment.
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Get your own job and get away. This is not healthy!
Hope your situation gets better!
Any time you add financial dependence to the situation it gets so much harder to walk away from. Someone that just left a toxic family environment def doesn’t deserve to be in another one now 😔
Sounds like a hopeless situation at best. See if your state has legal aid services and get some alimony to restart you life. Trying to stick it out with a cheating pedo is no way to go through life.
Good luck.
Do not get pregnant, and see about investing in your future. Maybe community college or vocational classes toward something that can make money.
Grow your skillset and bet on yourself. It sounds like your confidence is really low right now, but improving yourself can help grow that.
If he likes young girls, do not have kids with this man.
Staying with a cheating husband is one thing but you can’t stay with a pedo
You’re only 20—your life is just beginning, and you’ve got time to take control of it. Yes, you escaped a toxic family, but don’t replace that with a toxic marriage. Your husband cheated, has a porn addiction, and pursued an underage girl—those are serious red flags, not things to brush off. Right now, you’re financially dependent, but that doesn’t have to be permanent. Start small: look into quick, job-ready training like becoming a hairdresser, dental hygienist, or medical assistant—careers that pay well and give you independence.
Take any job you can in the meantime to get some income flowing. Your current situation might feel like safety, but it’s actually a trap. You deserve a future where you’re not staying because you have to—you stay (or walk away) because it’s your choice, backed by strength and options. Use your youth as your power—build a new life, not just a new version of the old pain.
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I would Highly suggest that you take this time to get into a community college and find a some type of training for a job you’d like to get into.
One good one is accounting. You’ll always find a job, be it bookkeeping, accounting and work your way up to hire levels.
Even in a bad economy, accountants will always be needed. It’s not hard!
You can go into a degree in accounting and will always have a job.